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Theodore A. Hoppe


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So, what is the purpose of men in modern families?

There are several Op-Ed debate in the New York Times asking, or attempting to answer, this question.

"In almost half the American households with children, mothers are the sole or primary breadwinners. This victory for working women shows evolving family economics — or maybe, two very different types of families.

So what is the purpose of men in modern families? We’re approaching the holiday that celebrates dads, but do fathers bring anything unique to the table?"

Reference a TEDTalk that you have listen to on this topic if you can.


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    Jun 8 2013: It's sort of rare, but when I meet a man who shines in his manhood, it's a beautiful thing--and it has so many of the same characteristics of what we might call true womanhood: nurturing, kind, protective, thoughtful, strong, sure, generous, and positive.

    Come to think of it, when people are truly connected to what it means to care for themselves and each other, we could say that these are the characteristics of:

    Motherhood, fatherhood, brotherhood, sisterhood, childhood, neighbourhood... We are not so essentially different, when we are truly beautiful!
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      Jun 8 2013: I like your thinking.
      In my study of relationship I have noticed a tendency toward individuality that leans itself toward a model of relationship that is based in the principles similar to social exchange theory. i. e. looking to get one's needs met in return for as little as possible.
      A more positive model of relationship is where we "do other's," meaning gaining insight and thoughtfulness into the others real needs and not just our own.

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