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Mary Saville

Educator - STEM, ACTS Homeschool Teaching Support

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How would you like to be remembered?

The reality of death is both sad and motivating for me. I attend funerals and see the slideshows, hear the stories. I wonder, what will my funeral be like? What would I most like to have left behind? For me, the answer centers around meaningful relationships and what I gave to others. That's not to say I have all the relationships I want, or that they are as deep as I would like, but it's direction I want to head in.
So, how would you like to be remembered?

  • Apr 12 2011: I'd like to be remembered as someone who could be both honest and kind; sometimes we can pride ourselves on being "brutally honest", I'd like to be remembered as being "honestly kind". Work in progress...
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    Apr 9 2011: I have trouble putting it in words, so I try again:
    With a smile.
    As a fragrance or a song.
    As a friend.
    I would like who ever remembered me to feel loved.

    As a passing wind tickling them and making them laugh.
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      Apr 8 2011: That is a very interesting response. I think it is hardest to show kindness to two groups of people: those who cause us grief and those we are around the most!
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    Apr 11 2011: My sincere and honest comment is: I would like to be remembered as a guy who didn't give a damn how he'd be remembered.
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    Apr 10 2011: I'd like to be remembered as an author or a scientist (or both!). I know there's nothing poetic in that answer, but this is honestly how I would like to be remembered. I'm at a stage in my life where I'm making tiny steps in both these directions.
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    Apr 9 2011: Amazing question. I always wanted to be remembered as someone who changed the world. But as the time passes by, and as I'm trying to figure out what is the actual purpose of my life, I came to conclusion that to be happy is the core. So I would like people to say that I lived happily, whatever that means.
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      Apr 9 2011: Do you feel like your happiness will benefit the world at large?
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    Apr 8 2011: It's very good question. The question makes me look back and forward on my life. I want to be rememberd as a man who tried to do things in life with righteous faith.