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Who or what saved you in darkest of your hours? Your survival story will help us all.

Every one faces darkness, hopelessness some time or other. We are most vulnerable during this period.
Sometimes we give up and something changes outside or within us which saves us or pushes us over the wall.
What saved you?

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    May 30 2013: Hi Adesh,
    The most challenging time in my life was about 23 years ago. My mother died, then I seperated from 24 years of marriage, then I was diagnosed with cancer, and a month later sustained a near fatal head/brain injury, then my father died. My daughter was a senior in college and son a freshmen...both living on campus....I was living alone for the first time in my life. When I regained consciousness after the head injury, emergency craniotomy, and kept alive on life support systems, I was in a whirlwind of emotions.

    The cancer surgery was postponed because the head injury took center stage....there was no point in trying to deal with everything else if I was not going to live anyway! First the prognosis was that I probably would not live, and when I DID live, the prognosis was that I would not function "normally" again. 5 months after the head injury/craniotomy, I went back in for cancer surgery.

    The thing that saved me from going deep into darkness, is that I always believed the life adventure was about learning, and I wanted to be as alert as possible in the middle of the lessons, which I could face with love, or with fear. Of course, there were many times that I experienced fear, and underlying that, there was a sense of awareness and calm. I was learning, growing, evolving, and I was doing it for the second time around in the same body!!! That was fascinating for me.

    I was 43 at the time of the accident, very active and in the best physical and emotional condition I had ever been in. When I regained consciousness, I was in a childlike state emotionally and physically, and I was faced with learning to function again as I did when I was a child. It was important to believe in myself, and in the back of my mind (such as it was), I knew I had learned certain things before, and I was going to learn again to the best of my ability.

    It was belief in myself, and the love of everyone in my life that kept me going:>)
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      May 31 2013: Great Colleen

      You survived a head injury and a cancer,
      You are a fighter and survivor.

      Your's is a story which inspires all of us
      Its a story of strong will, self belief, love for ownself and love for evreyone and everything

      I pray to God

      Giive me enough love
      So that i can see the world full of love,

      I only have one wish
      I ask for life of love.
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        May 31 2013: Thanks Adesh:>)
        I cannot honestly say that I am a "fighter", and I do not keep myself in the catagory of "survivor".

        There are elements in the meaning of "fighter" that I do not perceive, regarding my life experience..."strive to overcome"; "contend against", etc.

        One of my life philosophies, is to accept things I cannot change, have courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.

        I could not change the physical facts. The cancer and head injury were reality, and I accepted the facts.

        What I COULD change and control, were my perceptions of how I would move through the challenges. I could "fight" against the facts.....frustration, anger, fear, etc.......OR......I could move through the challenge with curiosity and love. I certainly experienced frustration and fear at times, and the underlying feeling was acceptance, curiosity and love.

        I don't like labels much, because I think/feel they limit us, so I do not call myself a "survivor". I learned, grew, and flourished from the experiences, which, in my humble perception goes way beyond simply survival.

        I believe that we are constantly programming our mind with the words we use, so it's important for me to clarify:>)

        I agree that I do have "strong will, self belief, and love for everything and everyone in our world.

        You write...."I ask for life of love".

        I suggest that we can create a life of love......or not.....it is a choice:>)
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          May 31 2013: I agree that we are the only ones who can create a life of love.

          I pray to HIM to give me wisdom to do that. I ask HIM
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        Jun 1 2013: I agree Adesh...we are the only ones who can create a life of love, and if we are open to the possibilities, contributions to our creation of a life of love can come from many different sources:>)
  • Jun 1 2013: This question gives me chills and the answer warms my heart. The person who saved me is my husband, John. More than twenty years ago, I was married to a man named Russ. Russ drank too much, and to make a long story short, I got the bad end of his drinking. At that time, I was a hard working mom and was able to support myself through my legal secretary position. After deciding that enough was enough with Russ, I filed for divorce. Upon leaving the courthouse after getting my divorce, my car was struck by an unlicensed drunk driver. I was taken to the hospital and immediately called my boss (the lawyer), who charmingly told me that "someone had to do the work" and that "I was fired". I left the hospital after a cast was placed on my leg. Two weeks later, having no husband, no car, and no job, as well as a broken leg, I realized that I would not be able to pay the upcoming rent. I dropped my son off at his babysitter's house and proceeded to the local bar, where I proceeded to "cry in my beer" and plan my suicide. I asked god why he was giving me more than I could handle. Just then a sweet long haired guy sat down next to me and said hello. I responded "you don't want to talk to me, buddy, I'm a big mess." He replied "tell me what's wrong". Well, I did. I told him everything. We talked and talked and he offered me a ride home, and he said "I'll take care of your from now on", and guess what....he did. He took over the job of being a great dad to "our son", who is now a PhD. He has supported me in every way possible and has nursed me back to health through many years of illnesses. He saved my life that night and has been my rock every day since. At the age of 28, when I wanted to jump off of the world, he was my soft place to fall. I met him on my darkest day, and he has been a ray of sunshine and hope everyday since. We are both 50 years old this year, and he is still my soft spot. I wish the same love for everyone, everywhere.
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      Jun 2 2013: you are a lucky and strong woman, god bless you! and i hope you will always keep happiness.
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      Jun 2 2013: Thanks Amy, wonderful

      People like John make this world beautiful and worth living.

      May people in need, meet their Johns
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    May 29 2013: Hi Adesh. Having been through periods of depression, darkness and hopelessness several times myself I decided to do something about it - I re-trained to be a counsellor.

    Since then, the darkness has become lighter, the hopelessness has some hope. The depression is still there, but it is under control, plus it is the best qualification I possess to be able to support others. It means I am free from stigma. I also have an understanding of depression through lived experience, and can empathise with related mental health issues.

    This is not to say that the benefits of counselling others is one-way only. Being trusted with the oft harrowing life stories of others is a great honour for me. I can say with some conviction that being able to do that has been one of the greatest positive influences of my own life.
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      May 29 2013: Allan the day you started giving hope to people your own hopelessness was less.
      That is the beauty of giving, by giving you gain....by taking you loose.

      You probably have the best qualification to be a consellor.

      May i ask you what qualities a good counsellor should posses or develope?
  • May 29 2013: I saved myself. When I had nothing left but self hate and thoughts of suicide I forced myself to walk into the hospital and ask for mental health treatment. If I didn't do that I probably wouldn't be here now. I'm not saying that I did everything because If I didn't receive any help from the advances we've made in psychology in the last couple centuries then I'd still be lost in the same place void of hope.

    So a more accurate way to put it is, I'm saving myself with Hope, with Communication, With the experience and knowledge of others, with some grit and with the human spirit..
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      May 29 2013: Jared you are a survivor, can become a good counsellar. I wonder what are you doing now?
      • May 30 2013: At the moment I'm still trying to get some traction in my studies to eventually get to my goal of Quantum thermodynamics research and Underwater archaeology =D. Thanks for taking the curiosity =)
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      Jun 6 2013: "There seems to be a similarity between the price of procreation in human males and males of some lower species."

      ... there seems to be a similarity between males and females when it comes to price of emotional fragility.
      It's ok if it leads to reflection and art. Not ok if it leads to vengeful reaction against one or the other, either implicit or explicit, but especially anti one or the other in the well-accepted code of law or social practice.

      But what do I know... Best wishes :)
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    May 30 2013: My survival instinct is similar to Colleen's. It was that if I gave up, I'd have to come back and learn the lesson all over again - only probably in a harsher form.

    Also I've always understood that life is in a constant flux, so nothing stays the same for long - the good and the bad. Mostly life is average - which is also just fine by me.
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      May 31 2013: This too shall pass.

      I also believe that nothing stays same for long
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        May 31 2013: Hi Don

        Do you believe in re-incarnation?

        Do you believe in day of Judgment?

        It will be interesting to know.
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      May 31 2013: Hi again Heather:>)

      I agree....I like to learn the lessons the first time around....saves a lot of time and energy! I also agree that life is in constant flux, and it's much easier and more content for me, to accept the changes, rather than fight against them.

      During the most challenging time of my life, I had this posted all over the house, and if I felt like I might be dropping into the darkness, I read this hundreds of times to remind myself to accept things I cannot change, have courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.....and.....sometimes.....simply go along for the ride with consciousness and love. As Adesh insightfully says.....this too shall pass:>)

      "Out of its abysses, unpredictable life emerges, with a never-ending procession of miracles, crises, healing, and growth. When I realize this once again, I see the absurdity of my belief that I can understand, predict and control life. All I can really do is go along for the ride, with as much consciousness and love as I can muster in the moment"
      (Molly Young Brown)
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        Jun 1 2013: To conclude...Please add to the list

        It seems we are our biggest saviour

        We should never shy away from seeking help

        Have hope and give hope
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          Jun 1 2013: I agree Adesh.......it's good to ask for, and accept help when we need it. It's also GREAT to recognize, be grateful for, and appreciate help, which many people offer when we are genuinely open to it. I perceive giving/receiving as a wonderful cycle that we can all participate in.

          There has been lots of research done about the power and strength of believing in ourselves and believing in others, whether it be individuals, family members, friends, a god, etc. Faith in SOMETHING or SOMEONE, seems to have an impact on healing....at least some of the time.
  • May 29 2013: If children know parents' love is always there for them.Those parents are great
  • May 29 2013: Parents' love accompanies me to go through the darkest time in my life.
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      May 29 2013: You certainly have great parents.

      Let me ask you,what makes one a great parent ?
      • May 29 2013: If children know parents' love is always there for them.Those parents are great
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          May 30 2013: That is so nice to hear edulover.
          I know that you are also this special loving parent to your child.
      • May 30 2013: Wowowo Dear Mary M.How beautiful the flower.I like it.
        Yes,I am always trying to the one of the parents I like:)
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          May 30 2013: Oh edulover I'm glad you like the beautiful clematis. It is from a garden.

          Look at this beautiful link that a TEDster from China shared with me today.
          It is all about your wonderful filial love (Chinese tradition), and how a son helps an aging father deal with his last days.......It was so beautiful.

          Enjoy please.....it is in Chinese.....I had to google translate to read....but the hard work was worth it.

          http://news.qq.com/a/20130530/003499.htm


          Mary :)
      • May 31 2013: OH,thanks Dear Mary M.I am touched by the video:)Filial love in china has deep and long culture.And parents' love for kids are doing the same.There is a well-known proverb in china:blood is thicker than water.
        I do appreciate what u are trying to know more about china:)
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    Jun 9 2013: TED actually "saved" me in my darkest hour.

    I was loosing my company, my then best friend and girlfriend in the same month and I was in general despair and depression.
    I needed to know that there was some good in the world so one night I went looking for it on the web. After some hours of searching I found TED and I started watching Talks.
    Once I started I couldn't get enough so I barricaded myself and watched TED Talks from dawn til dusk for almost two months. It deeply changed my perception of so many aspects of the world and I really feel that I wouldn't have gotten through it if it wasn't for TED.
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      Jun 9 2013: Glad you are here Jimmy.
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      Jun 10 2013: Jimmy Hi you have come a long way, congrats.
      From no company to plenty
      From despair to hope
  • Jun 6 2013: What saved me from the darkest my of hours.... my brother, my grandmother, my father, my mother, my teachers, friends, and everyone else who both put me to those hours and got me out of there and God who saved me through working through those people.I would learn one stabbing lesson that would prove to be vital for me to survive through the other. But it just seemed like i would never really get to learn those lessons long enough not to repeat them again. It still does. And in those moments, what really saved me and saves me from the darkest moments of my life are remembering the love from my loved ones and the promises from God of his love that would never fade away or break. There is a part of a prayer that goes like "when i talk of others, let me reflect them upon the mirror of love and do not let me discontinue from my path and tie my day down today because i spend all my day upon the foolishness of comparing my self to the others" it's really hard to do, especially reflecting upon the people through eyes of love in the worst times but that is what really needs to be done in those times for everyone, self included, to heal. Hope this helps anyone.
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      Jun 6 2013: Every one needs family , friends and blessings of Almighty
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    Jun 2 2013: Adesh, you asked a very good question: "What saved you?" Truthfully, I am not sure I am totally "saved", but I certainly am on a journey of possibilities. The lateness of the evening hours permitted me the quiet time to listen to music (without lyrics.) This silence made me very uncomfortable at first - I was alone with me. Quickly, I heard the damning words from a step-mother, "you came from the devil's workshop", then words from an x-husband, "you are stupid, ugly and worthless", the list goes on from other unlovely situations, I cried and cried, yet I still listened to the classical music night after night.

    The symphonic notes must have gone to heaven and back because all of a sudden the notes became droplets of ink in my journal where I was pouring my soul out in words. After several nights of music and writing I began a new journey that took me into very dark places; however, very magical places. I started to remember how I bonded with nature as a very little girl in order to survive the mental and physical abuse. You see, I grew up being bounced back and forth between relatives and non-relatives (about 36 different living arrangements) and within these arrangements ever-so-frightful events oftentimes took my childhood into the drones of fear, despair and beatings.

    I was a precocious child and of course very quizzical. Once I was watching a spider gliding down its drag line to avoid a larger insect, and then I began seeing how nature's little creatures survived. With determination, I could survive too. Then there was a squirral running up a tree wagging its bushy tail at a barking dog; a sand crab running sideways into the white dunes blending in so as not to be discovered. In nature, while the winter leaves are decaying the spring bulbs are blooming. In the human heart goodness and love can never truly be destroyed by the actions and words of others? My little book is called: Hiding Places, A Memoir from the Pirate Princess of Tybee Island.
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      Jun 2 2013: In the human heart goodness and love can never truly be destroyed by the actions and words of others.
      I will add...Words means nothing, we are the ones who attach meanings to them

      Great thought, thank you.

      Deborah you learned about life the hard way
      ..... ready to share and illuminate the world.
  • May 29 2013: I have suffered from clinical depression on and off throughout most of my adult life (I am now 65) and seem to fall into that black hole every three to four years and stay there for up to two years - for no apparent reason. In 1993, in the depths of a really bad and prolonged bout, I read a book by Charles Zastrow called "Talk to Yourself". As a result of reading that, one day I sat down and analyzed all the things that were giving me grief and divided it up into things I could do something about and things that were beyond my control. I worked out an action plan to deal with the things I could do something about - and set about changing my THINKING about the things that I perceived as being beyond my control. Over the next few months, as I put my plans and my thinking changes into action, my depression lifted and the day I awoke and could recognise that it was a beautiful day (even though it was cold and wet) I knew I had come back to level ground. Since then I have had only one bout of depression which I was able to handle in the same fashion. I have been totally free of depression for over 5 years now, but I ensure that I examine my thoughtforms on a daily basis, look after myself physically and meditate for at least 30 - 45 minutes a day on how fortunate I am. I feel an inner peace that I have not ever known before and have an ability to withstand that comes from knowing that nothing lasts forever and I have a choice about how I deal with things.
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      May 29 2013: Great come back.
      I will recommend a book for you to read by Richard Carlson.... No Matter what you can be happy.

      What will be your advice to people who are depressed ?
      • May 29 2013: Thank you for the recommendation - I shall add it to my reading list.

        It is very easy, when you are suffering from depression, to think that there are lots of good reasons for you to be depressed, that you are alone, that nothing can improve your situation.

        Seek help. Take medication if needs be. Find a good counsellor - maybe this will be a psychologist, maybe it will be a shaman or a guru.

        Know - really KNOW - that getting mentally well again is hard work - but it can happen. Think about - and really accept - that the Buddhist saying "not always so" is true and applies to everything - good AND bad.

        Also think about - and really accept - that we often have a choice about whether we are mentally well or not. We do not have to be ill just because we are told we are. Mental disease is like physical disease - in many cases it is curable. But sometimes it takes a while to find the right cure for you.
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      May 29 2013: Also think about - and really accept - that we often have a choice about whether we are mentally well or not. We do not have to be ill just because we are told we are. Mental disease is like physical disease - in many cases it is curable. But sometimes it takes a while to find the right cure for you.

      I agree, Mental disease should be treated as equivalent to a physical disease.
  • May 28 2013: Simply put Jesus Saves!
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    Jun 6 2013: Every one needs family , friends and blessings of Almighty
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    Jun 4 2013: Marcelo Hi

    I am sure your family and friends will understand you sooner or later and will stand by you. Keep up the high spirits . You and your family need not feel guilty as it not a fault.

    Since the end of the 19th century, there has been a global movement towards increased visibility, recognition, and legal rights for homosexual people, including the rights to marriage and civil unions, adoption and parenting, employment, military service, equal access to health care, and the introduction of anti-bullying legislation to protect gay minors.


    Along with bisexuality and heterosexuality, homosexuality is one of the three main categories of sexual orientation within the heterosexual–homosexual continuum: asexuality is sometimes considered a fourth category on the same continuum.[citation needed] Scientific and medical understanding is that sexual orientation is not a choice, but rather a complex interplay of biological and environmental factors,especially with regard to early uterine environment. While there are those who still hold the view that homosexual activity is "unnatural" or "dysfunctional", research has shown that homosexuality is an example of a normal and natural variation in human sexuality and is not in and of itself a source of negative psychological effects. Prejudice and discrimination against homosexual and bisexual people (homophobia) have, however, been shown to cause significant psychological harm, and are especially damaging to children who are homosexual.

    Laws affecting lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) people vary greatly by country or territory—everything from legal recognition of same-sex marriage or other types of partnerships, to the death penalty as punishment for same-sex romantic/sexual activity or identity.
    Lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) rights in Mexico have expanded in recent years, in keeping with worldwide legal trends. Pl refer to the Mexican LGTB rights on Wikipedia. All The best.
  • Jun 4 2013: Extreme metal helps me. The pessimistic views can be relatable.
    Science, philosophy and art helps me too.
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      Jun 6 2013: I agree with you craig.

      How about having a hobby?
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        Jun 6 2013: Aren't science, philosophy and art (music is art...) and interest in all of them...hobbies?

        The reason I'm reacting to your comment and the comment above is that I once heard "get a hobby" in a dark hour. I did have a lot of hobbies (music, computer games...), just misunderstood by the ungentle adviser.

        In a dark hour of mine some time ago I was forced to speak to the so-called professionals, most of them from either older generations or with little knowledge of subcultures. When I told one of them that I listen to a lot of music and use some old games to help me maintain balance I heard "But can't you do something else? Like going to the gym?" A horrifyingly judgmental reaction of the type "do as I do and you'll be fine because you'll be like me."

        The "professional" mentioned above did not know much about music, science, philosophy or art, that's self-explanatory. Definitely not relatable, actually quite harmful as this person had power of definition when it comes to what or who I am or was.

        I'll stick to my interests and won't to try to be somebody else or get hobbies to please mediocre coaches or therapists. (you're not one of them, adesh, I'm just saying...)
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          Jun 9 2013: Anna You are right

          Every activity turns in to hobby if you start enjoying it
          and you do it the sake of having a good time rather than just earning some thing.
      • Jun 7 2013: I see science, philospophy and art as hobbies, I think, because I do not do any of these things for a living.
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          Jun 10 2013: Agreed Craig

          Every activity turns in to hobby if you start enjoying it
          and you do it the sake of having a good time rather than just earning some thing.

          What is your definition of hobby?
      • Jun 11 2013: My definition of a hobby is something that you do that doesn't need to be done. Something that is done purely for fun that enriches your life. A hobby can be abbandoned without serious consecquences.
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      Jun 7 2013: Maybe something that can be relatable since you're mentioning art and philosophy:

      http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Darkness_Visible_%28memoir%29

      http://archive.org/details/DarknessVisiblewilliamStyron

      Melancholy and interest in deep thought, even if it is dark and thus not for everobody, can be a state of mind and doesn't have to be viewed as hour of darkness. Depends on the label and definition. Not everybody can be aided by common solutions like taking up yoga and glueing a fake smile while telling others that they have taken up yoga so it's going to be fine.

      Some need other solutions. If others are judgmental of the solutions ("Poetry? Philosophy? Come on, that's lame, let's go to a party!") that can only add insult to misunderstanding.

      I prefer individuality and deep thought to glorified, disrespecting superficiality.
  • Jun 4 2013: Heres my answer: Am certainly still going through my darkness, am totally aware of that. However, am also aware that am walking through the path that would take me away from this. My "darknes" is a what it could be known as a coming out story, which I'll tell right after telling who helped me going through. My parents, and my ex are the people that have helped and hurt me the most. Also, my firends and a good therapist are the ones who helped me no matter what.

    Am a 21 years old mexian college student. I have being doubting myself since long time ago. I first told my best firend about the doubts of my sexuality. And then it went off. Talking about most of the mexican, Mexcian culture is not yet ready for acceptance to that kind of diversity. We are not yet ready for integration of disabled individuals, but our generatins are changing. Still, I told my sister first. Which took me to told my mother. And they both told to the others member of the family. This led to my family and personal struggle. I started to lowering grades, I lost my "boyfriend" and I start discriminating myself. I doubting myslef and all my short history. and one day I arrived to my parents and I told them that 1. If am asking for a listening ear I should put one, so am ready for listening their opinion. 2. I know that family is first, so here am I 3. Is a smart action to know when to lose, and I can take it any longer; I really need your help. They took me to this pshrink which decide to left a side my homosexuality and work on other issues as my dependence on people. He just want to help me found my self and not be defined by my homosexuality. :D There's hope. And i hope I can have a family too.
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      Jun 4 2013: Hi Marcelo

      I am sure your family and friends will understand you sooner or later and will stand by you. Keep up the high spirits . You and your family need not feel guilty as it not a fault.

      Since the end of the 19th century, there has been a global movement towards increased visibility, recognition, and legal rights for homosexual people, including the rights to marriage and civil unions, adoption and parenting, employment, military service, equal access to health care, and the introduction of anti-bullying legislation to protect gay minors.


      Along with bisexuality and heterosexuality, homosexuality is one of the three main categories of sexual orientation within the heterosexual–homosexual continuum: asexuality is sometimes considered a fourth category on the same continuum.[citation needed] Scientific and medical understanding is that sexual orientation is not a choice, but rather a complex interplay of biological and environmental factors,especially with regard to early uterine environment. While there are those who still hold the view that homosexual activity is "unnatural" or "dysfunctional", research has shown that homosexuality is an example of a normal and natural variation in human sexuality and is not in and of itself a source of negative psychological effects. Prejudice and discrimination against homosexual and bisexual people (homophobia) have, however, been shown to cause significant psychological harm, and are especially damaging to children who are homosexual.

      Laws affecting lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) people vary greatly by country or territory—everything from legal recognition of same-sex marriage or other types of partnerships, to the death penalty as punishment for same-sex romantic/sexual activity or identity.
      Lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) rights in Mexico have expanded in recent years, in keeping with worldwide legal trends. Pl refer to the Mexican LGTB rights on Wikipedia. All The best.
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      Jun 2 2013: Hi Don

      Any thing which inspires people and gives hope is welcome
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    Jun 1 2013: To conclude...Please add to the list

    It seems we are our biggest saviour

    We should never shy away from seeking help

    Have hope and give hope
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      Jun 1 2013: To conclude...Please add to the list

      It seems we are our biggest saviour

      We should never shy away from seeking help

      Have hope and give hope
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      May 31 2013: Asking for help signifies , you are still hopeful and still want to change for the better.

      Not asking for help is a dangerous sign of hopelessness and giving up on yourself.

      Thank you Don , your comments shows your experience in life
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          May 31 2013: Thanks Don

          I believe..
          To give, is to gain
          To take ,is to loose
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    May 30 2013: I dont think I have faced my darkest hour yet.

    I doubt anyone can save me when it comes.

    Its just the cycle of life and death.

    Death needs life for what it kills to grow in.
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      May 31 2013: I agree Obey , you are your biggest saviour.

      I pray you never ever have to face one.

      And I am sure you are well prepared

      One should prepare or should not bother
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    May 30 2013: Adesh, have you seen this TED talk?

    http://www.ted.com/talks/ruby_wax_what_s_so_funny_about_mental_illness.html

    Elyn Saks also has a good TED talk on mental illness.

    I, like some others on here, think that getting help is very important.

    Also, a variety of strategies are just as important.

    Good diet, exercise, getting out and feeling the sun on your skin, talking to strangers, keeping active, helping others.
    When it is a clinical depression medication is very important. This is especially so with Post Partum depression.

    Also, I learned from a book on alzheimers, that when the elderly get depressed, they can start to forget things.
    Many times the elderly show signs of dementia (memory issues/forgetfulness), but it's just a side effect of depression and not dementia at all.
    And this type of memory loss is reversible.

    There is alot to say on the issue of depression.
    We have had alot of conversations on this topic on TED.
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      May 30 2013: I just saw the talk, thanks Mary

      Getting help is very important as you suggested.

      Depression is either exogenous or endogenous
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          May 31 2013: Mary was telling about depression and how to avoid or fight it.

          May be she suggested that we are in a great depression when we are facing a tragedy.

          Exogenous depression has a well defined cause., external factors are paramount.
  • May 30 2013: to give others hope after you lose everything or rather when it's taken from you.
  • May 30 2013: This is my story. www.a-new-hope.org
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      May 30 2013: I cannot imagine what you have been through.
      It must have been hard.
      I'm glad to see that you and your husband continue to move forward.

      Good for you Mrs. C.
      • May 30 2013: Thanks. Yes it was the worst time of my life. I have never experienced anything like it.
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      May 30 2013: Mrs C what inspired you to develope this site... a-new-hope.org?
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      • May 31 2013: Just opened about 2 weeks ago. Don't know how many visitors for sure. Thanks so much.