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If you could give your twenty-year-old self one piece of advice, what would it be? Why?

Hello! I'm an undergraduate student who was truly inspired by Meg Jay's talk, "Why 30 is not the new 20" so I wanted to see what the TED community has to say. I turned twenty in March and I want to make the most of my next decade of life. How did you spend your twenties? Was this the defining of your life? Currently, I see endless opportunities, but I'm scared for the day they will disappear.

So if you're above twenty, what advice do you have for your past self? If you are twenty-something, what do you tell yourself everyday to be the best you can be? And if you're under twenty, what's one thing that you hope your twenty-year-old self will remember about adolescence? Thank you so much and I look forward to seeing what you have to say!

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    May 25 2013: I'm 24, and grateful to have had some awakening experiences, but still look back with the feeling " wow, i already had so many chances to pull myself together that i've missed". Your question is awesome and i think it's the right time for youto be asking! I would say to myself:

    - don't be so concerned about whether you're cool enough or not, the people you are hanging out with are going to change in ways you have no idea of now

    - do not date someone because you have a huge crush on them, or they have one on you. Learn from your teenage relationships and try to grow up to find people who you are actually compatible with

    - look at yourself. Do you know what you like? Do you just like things that the people you admire like? Seriously get to know yourself. Don't make your decisions based on what other people think of you, or what you think they want from you. Be aware enough to know when you are doing this, and move away from it. Your actual desires and intentions will always come up to the surface eventually, so if you are pretending, know that you will one way regret it. We all have to face our true selves someday. Never run from yourself!

    - don't be worried about having the best friends or the right friends right now. Prioritize learning who you are, how you want to be, what feels right to you, and the people you will attract into your life will be much better matched to your inner self than if you don't follow your heart, or if you try to force yourself to be someone you're not.

    - do not think that you will be a better person tomorrow! Whatever you do today, makes it more likely you will do it the next day. Habits are built subtly, day by day, and bad habits are so hard to break, it is so much better to just prevent them by keeping an inquisitive, alive outlook

    - seriously be okay with being different. Embrace it. Don't run away from your own strangeness.

    - try meditation : )

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