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Morgan Bakies

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If you could give your twenty-year-old self one piece of advice, what would it be? Why?

Hello! I'm an undergraduate student who was truly inspired by Meg Jay's talk, "Why 30 is not the new 20" so I wanted to see what the TED community has to say. I turned twenty in March and I want to make the most of my next decade of life. How did you spend your twenties? Was this the defining of your life? Currently, I see endless opportunities, but I'm scared for the day they will disappear.

So if you're above twenty, what advice do you have for your past self? If you are twenty-something, what do you tell yourself everyday to be the best you can be? And if you're under twenty, what's one thing that you hope your twenty-year-old self will remember about adolescence? Thank you so much and I look forward to seeing what you have to say!


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  • May 16 2013: First of all, Morgan, as someone who is approaching that hill, your opportunities will never disappear! You wil always have crossroads to take advantage of, throughout your life!

    But it is true, biologically, you are standing at the foothills of your life. It must be a thrilling thing for you! I can remember it well.

    As far as advice for my twenty-year-old me? None. The choices as well as the things that were out of my control from my 20th birthday has led up to where I am now, and I am grateful to be where I am, and who I am, now.
    I met my future husband at 22, which changed my life. I was hit by a car at 26, which changed my life again. Then, I had kids, which changed it yet again. I really don't know if any advice could've prepared me for those changes. Greeting them head on and at face value was part of the reason they were so valuable, in retrospect. I've learned from my 'missteps', which have been as educational as my achievements, perhaps more so.
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      May 16 2013: That's lovely! i hope I can look back on my twenties in a decade and be as content with my life as you are. I'm sure your thirties will be another thrilling adventure!
      • May 17 2013: Thirties, Forties, Fifties... all of them, baby!
        Jane Fonda has some wonderful thoughts about the 'third act' in our lives, which you are nowhere NEAR, but might be good to see as well. A lot of people I know who are 50 or 60+ feel like they are just getting started in life! Always embrace those crossroads, take the leap, no matter which 'act' you're in:

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