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Do we underestimate the importance of the 20-something years? Live Q&A with TED speaker Meg Jay, Wednesday at 3pm Eastern

In her talk, clinical psychologist Dr. Meg Jay urges twentysomethings and those who know and love them to claim this period as their "defining decade" -- to focus not on identity crises, but on building for themselves what she calls identity capital.

So, have we been sending the wrong message with language like "kidults" and "30 is the new 20"? Bring your questions and comments to the live chat on Wednesday, May 15 from 3:00-4:00pm Eastern time.


Closing Statement from TED

From Meg Jay:

YOLO! You only live one, but hopefully that one life is going to go on for a long time. So be mindful about what you're doing, who you're doing it with, and where you're going. Be kind to your future self!

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    May 15 2013: Hi Meg,

    I enjoyed your book! However, I felt the book was targeted to a very specific demographic -- upper/middle class economic status, well-educated, looking for a heterosexual relationship. What are your thoughts on this?

    Thanks for your advice.
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      May 15 2013: Thanks for your comment, Becky. I actually disagree. Research shows that people in all income brackets get new jobs through weak ties; that's good advice for everyone. Both gay and straight adults do want marriages/partners/families; in fact, that's what marriage equality is all about. And the concept of identity capital can be liberating for those who can't afford college or who don't do well in school; one good piece of identity capital or one lead from a weak tie can trump someone with a 4.0 from an Ivy who doesn't know how to get in the game.

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