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True legitimacy comes from others regarding what we created. Best recognition we can get to is recognition we'll give to ourself.

In our modern narcissistic society a big misunderstanding at work can lead to harsh motivaional issues. The misunderstanding is about legitimacy and recognition. About legitimacy, getting to a manager position or director, can give us the impression that we are almighty because we give ourself legitimacy to command through our position. That's a big mistake : true legitimacy will be given by the people we are working with regarding our results, commitment and hability to build strong relationships.

About recognition, employees' expectations are getting bigger and bigger. Recognition is given but is not sustanaible as it'll have to be provided day after day, all over again. The best and most sustainable recognition we can get to is recognition we'll be able to provide to ourself regarding our past achievements.
It's not self-righteousness : it's just taking time to have a look back at what we made so to endure hard-times more easily.

Legitimacy is given by others and is headed to the future.

Best rescognition has to be given by ourselves and is headed to the past.


Closing Statement from Laurent BOGHOSSIAN

Here's a video that could summarize my thought. This is the reenactment of the presentation I gave at 3rd International Congress for coaching psychology, May 16th-17th, Rome. I hope you'll enjoy. I called it 'New rules for legitimacy and recognition at work'. http://vimeo.com/68435283

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    May 14 2013: Hi Laurent, :D
    I personally value all opinions and have never liked the whole idea of "argument from authority", I always assess arguments and opinions on the "truth value" in them. (I mean if this was always the case, people like Einstein wouldn't have got very far!)
    Yet surely you must admit to advance recognition from other people, is more important than recognition from yourself?
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      May 14 2013: Hi Bernard.
      I think I wasn't thorough enough in what I've said. So your post gives me the opportunity to refine my idea.
      My point was that having too many expectations in terms of recognition from others isn't that a good thing because, if you don't receive any, you'll have to face some kind of motivational issues.
      Of course recognition from others is very important and needed. But what is important too is to be able to regulate this human psychologogical need by being honest to ourselves and take a loock back at what we created, specially when we are in trouble.
      It's a good way to maintain self-esteem when recognition from others doesn't come.
      People I met who live their life through other's recognition are far more to be disapointed than people who manage a balance self-esteem by looking backward instead of looking forward to a probable forthcoming recognition that could never come. I hope I made myself a bit clearer. Thanks for your message indeed ;-)

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