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Laurent BOGHOSSIAN

Owner - Manager, MANANTRA CONCEPT

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True legitimacy comes from others regarding what we created. Best recognition we can get to is recognition we'll give to ourself.

In our modern narcissistic society a big misunderstanding at work can lead to harsh motivaional issues. The misunderstanding is about legitimacy and recognition. About legitimacy, getting to a manager position or director, can give us the impression that we are almighty because we give ourself legitimacy to command through our position. That's a big mistake : true legitimacy will be given by the people we are working with regarding our results, commitment and hability to build strong relationships.

About recognition, employees' expectations are getting bigger and bigger. Recognition is given but is not sustanaible as it'll have to be provided day after day, all over again. The best and most sustainable recognition we can get to is recognition we'll be able to provide to ourself regarding our past achievements.
It's not self-righteousness : it's just taking time to have a look back at what we made so to endure hard-times more easily.

Legitimacy is given by others and is headed to the future.

Best rescognition has to be given by ourselves and is headed to the past.

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Closing Statement from Laurent BOGHOSSIAN

Here's a video that could summarize my thought. This is the reenactment of the presentation I gave at 3rd International Congress for coaching psychology, May 16th-17th, Rome. I hope you'll enjoy. I called it 'New rules for legitimacy and recognition at work'. http://vimeo.com/68435283

  • Jun 6 2013: I agree with your idea to an extent. The self-recognition of achievements is important to keep one's momentum in the world, it is true. However, I do not think that the past events are the ones that should be focused on. I believe the current actions one takes to be the most vital; if one spends too much time reminiscing about their past achievements, they will miss all opportunity for future ones.

    So rather than looking for approval of others, or patting oneself on the back for things that have long gone, one should appreciate the current state of affairs and how they handle the situations they are placed in.
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    May 15 2013: I agree.
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    May 14 2013: Hi Laurent, :D
    I personally value all opinions and have never liked the whole idea of "argument from authority", I always assess arguments and opinions on the "truth value" in them. (I mean if this was always the case, people like Einstein wouldn't have got very far!)
    Yet surely you must admit to advance recognition from other people, is more important than recognition from yourself?
    Thanks,
    Bernard.
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      May 14 2013: Hi Bernard.
      I think I wasn't thorough enough in what I've said. So your post gives me the opportunity to refine my idea.
      My point was that having too many expectations in terms of recognition from others isn't that a good thing because, if you don't receive any, you'll have to face some kind of motivational issues.
      Of course recognition from others is very important and needed. But what is important too is to be able to regulate this human psychologogical need by being honest to ourselves and take a loock back at what we created, specially when we are in trouble.
      It's a good way to maintain self-esteem when recognition from others doesn't come.
      People I met who live their life through other's recognition are far more to be disapointed than people who manage a balance self-esteem by looking backward instead of looking forward to a probable forthcoming recognition that could never come. I hope I made myself a bit clearer. Thanks for your message indeed ;-)
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    May 14 2013: Hi colleen. My idea was about the fact that often we fill entitled to do things because we think we have good experience and diplomas to do so. This is self-legitimacy. In professional environement, self-legitimacy is difficult to implement because it is perceived as self-righteousness. Nowadays, any manager will get their legitimacy to command from their employees. To summarize : one can't say 'I'm the chief because I have diplomas'. True legitimacy to act will come from the employees throughout the manager's results. About recognition, we can't expect to have someone besides us day after day to tell us how good our work is. That's the reason why working on self-recognition about ourachievements can help us to be kind and honest about ourselves on a daily basis. Which is a sustainable recognition. Thanks for your comment ;-)
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      May 14 2013: Hi Laurent,
      This seems to go back to "know thyself"....be clear in ourselves and we reflect that clarity to others. Before we can be clear with others, we need to be clear with ourselves. I agree....it makes no sense to depend on others for recognition. It is important to recognize all aspects of our "self" for sustainable recognition, which contributes to kind and honest interactions with ourselves and others. That feels like authenticity to me. Whatever we choose to call it, I believe it is an important element to nurture in ourselves and support in others:>)
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    May 14 2013: Hello Laurent....nice to see you again....you've been away from TED for awhile!

    I am trying to understand your idea. Do you equate ligitimacy with authenticity? Are you saying that we get information from others...people give us information which may help us feel ligitimate/authentic? We internalize this information to recognize our own ligitimacy/authenticity?
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    May 14 2013: That's great,can't agree more. Very like the sentence you mentiond"it's not righteousness: it's just taking time to have a look back at what you've made so to endure hard-times easily.'
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      May 14 2013: Thanks a lot. ;-) I'm happy you liked it. See you around.