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Noel Rojo

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How can society become more accepting of people as a whole, instead of the european standard of beauty?

People are mixing more with the passage of time, but with the passage of time western features as the epitome of beauty have also spread (leaving many alienated).

*This question comes after reading a beautiful and compelling short story written by
writer Aliete De Board, titled Immersion:


Here is a comment posted by Khaalidah: ' I once met a Filipino woman who told me that she wanted to look American. Jokingly and sadly I asked if she meant "like me" (African American) and she told me no. When I pressed her to explain what she meant, she told me that she wanted to look more Caucasian.
African American women used to (and some still do) bleach their skin for a lighter complexion.
Asian woman have blepharoplasty to achieve a fold in the upper eyelid.
Women have collagen injections to plump their facees to achieve a younger look. They get botox injections to erase wrinkles.
So many people are trying to achieve and maintain unnatural standards and in the process forget who and what they are. I can't tell you how many women I've heard say they can't remember their hair color.'


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    May 9 2013: history disagrees with the current standard of beauty...many different ways of being beautiful has be admired> In the classrom.only one way of looking into history is popular...the linear narrative full of men and war...excluding the bankers who financed war, the politicians who threatened historic outcomes,religions slaying their competitors ...and so few know the history of beauty and our current behaviour is heavily edited narrative for the marketing worlds benefit and self esteem damaging fallout on almost every girl..Im am a hairdresser...i see self disgust all day long,I see men manipulating this factor to their advantage,,ect ect..In antiquity BLACKWOMEN where seen as extroidinarily beautiful before racism was invented YES I said it...paintings exhibited black culture in silk robes in numerous paintings,blackmaddonas,ect. The European style of dress with the huge back bustle is an attempt to copy the backsides of african women,,,,When we learn little slices of history which exclude the human experience we conclude history was unintelligent or primitive...if you learn the history of humans..not WARS you will see the spirit of beauty and yearning and effort that pulses through all races and the beauty of the women who birthed al of mankind
    • May 13 2013: "The European style of dress with the huge back bustle is an attempt to copy the backsides of african women"

      I'm afraid this isn't true. The bustle was born out of the huge skirts that were popular before it. When the large skirt started to fade out of fashion, many people could not afford to simply go out and buy whole new wardrobes, so all that fabric was gathered up and became the 'bustle'. Later dresses were deliberately made to have the bustle shape, but it started just a place to put the excess fabric.

      Obviously fashion has quite often sought to either accentuate or "create" a body feature that has come into style - whether it be large bust, tiny waist, tiny feet, or large behind - but there is no evidence that the bustle was specifically to mimic *African* features. Despite what seems to be your assertion, there are many, many African women who do not have large behinds, who are very tall and slender.

      In many cultures, paler skin was (and is) equated with wealth because if you were rich enough not to work in the fields, your skin was naturally lighter. Today, people with very white skin tan to turn darker, as this is seen as more beautiful.

      Being plump also used to be equated with not just wealth, but health. If you were rich enough to eat well, you were likely to be healthier and plumper. Today, being slim is equated with being healthy.

      Beauty does change through the generations and across cultures. I think the real danger of the "beauty industry" today isn't that it sets a standard, but that it has in fact set an unreal standard. Models aren't even 'good enough', and their pictures are edited, touched up, smoothed out, and altered until the person in the picture is not a person who actually exists.

      The problem with the standards of beauty today is they are no longer seen as simply epitomes of beauty to be enjoyed, but that they are rulers to which women and yes, sometimes men, are actually held up to and judged. Individualism is lost.

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