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thetisd theoktisti

Assistant Accountant, Cegedim Relationship Management

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Could we really bear to forgive?

Concerned about how many mistakes we have made. Some of them might had an great impact or influence in somebody's life , yet we might had been influenced by our mistakes. How the situations are after one had made a great mistake such as betrayal? Do we have the power of forgiveness? The real forgiveness , that forgiveness which you are really able to forgive and forget...to continue in that same life situation with the same feelings for that person as there were before..
On the other hand when we do make mistakes, do we really bear to look other eye by eye? ...to look him in that way that we would be able to continue our lives with him as there were before...
In both occasions..do we just pretend to?
Honestly..what forgiveness is..I
Is it a feeling that we can handle of it ? or Is it a power of an upper God?


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    May 7 2013: There is no such thing as forgive and forget. We can choose to forgive, but forgetting is not an option. The memory is never erased in the mind. We simply choose to not allow it to take control.

    If a person is truly sorry, then forgiveness can allow you to restore a broken relationship and heal from the hurt that it caused. It's a two way street. Forgiveness does not heal a broken relationship if the other person refuses to acknowledge that what they did was wrong. It's a matter of trust. Is the other person willing to make amends to restore that trust? Or are they just playing a game?

    As far as is it a power of an upper God? The only upper God is love. If you can command the power of love, then you can choose to love someone despite their faults. It's all up to you. What sacrifices are you willing to make to love someone else no matter what? Just remember, you can't do it alone. The other person has to be willing to do their part, otherwise, you are allowing yourself to be the victim.
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      May 7 2013: Hi Roy, thanks for your replying,
      Your thoughts are very interesting. Its very helpfull and understandable for me that you distinguish forgive and forget! Its another point of view that i couldnt thought about..!

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