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is romantic love a definable concept ?

i think there's a difference between romantic love and that kinda love we have for our family , teachers & our own selves but does romantic love have a definition ? i mean how do we know if it's romantic love or it's that other kind of love ?

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  • May 3 2013: They're definitely close. Love is putting someone else's needs above your own. Romantic love basically just is the same thing as familial love (except you choose your partner) with the addition of sexual attraction. It's not magic, luck, or destiny. It's a choice like any other, but maybe the most important decision you'll ever make in your life when you decide to marry someone. It's a beautiful thing, but it takes hard work, sacrifice, and discipline to make it work.
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      May 4 2013: " It's not magic, luck, or destiny. It's a choice like any other "
      how is it a choice ? i mean can we really choose who we fall in love with ?
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        May 5 2013: .
        Yes!
        We can,
        via instinctive data and acquired data in our brain.
      • May 6 2013: Sure you can. It happens differently for everybody, but it's still a choice. You choose to commit or not. You choose to pursue a relationship or not. Love is not something that's found, it's built. What all the movies and music have been feeding the world is a lie. You might not choose initial attraction or sexual attraction, but that's not love. Love is not infatuation or even obsession. Love is a mutual deep trust and openness, a commitment to always mutually support each other. That doesn't come at first sight. That only comes with time, which starts with your decision to try to love that person.

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