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The "family" is the most over-rated, hypocritical social structure that we have. The roots of most social ills lie within the family

Inequality, gender bias, favouritism, abuse, fanaticism. White-washing and "fakebooking".
Look closely at your own and say it is free from any or all of this.
Blessed is the person who can put her/his hand on their heart and say - my family is not any of these things.


Closing Statement from Ishika Ghose

The first person who must learn is I myself! Insight.
I must try and learn from this "conversation" how to put my "question/idea" in a way in which most people can understand the question first ---- without taking offence, becoming defensive or analysing my reasons for questioning.

What was also interesting and partly expected were the very very angry responses I had from one of the earlier contributors Edward Long.There were times when I felt I had offended him personally.

The idea per se has not evolved/changed in any way as a result of this conversation.
Perhaps because I was looking for more people who would accept the idea itself rather than ask for solutions simultaneously.

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    May 7 2013: Hm this is an interesting idea and in some ways I do agree that family is over rated and it causes allot of pressure on people to start a family when they may not want one and I kind of hate how all governments are trying to make more families when:

    1) The world is overpopulated as it is we don't need more children.
    2)The governments of the world have bigger fish to fry.
    3)It is none of the governments concern if I do or do not have kids.

    The idea of starting a family also is a huge reason for the gender pay gap as it is assumed all women are going to have children and need time of work. So I dislike that assumption greatly.

    However family is also our primary source of socialization. I personally don't think my opinions were hugely shaped by my family but I do think they are the ones that gave me the ability to go out and seek my own views. I was never forced to believe what they believed in any way shape or form. I think family can only really cause a problem if people are forcing old fashioned views onto their children who are the future. I see that as holding us back. I think if more people found a middle ground with parenting where they were relaxed about how their kids expressed and found themselves but still kept them in line enough so they don't become miss led to think they will always get their way family can be amazing.

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