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The "family" is the most over-rated, hypocritical social structure that we have. The roots of most social ills lie within the family

Inequality, gender bias, favouritism, abuse, fanaticism. White-washing and "fakebooking".
Look closely at your own and say it is free from any or all of this.
Blessed is the person who can put her/his hand on their heart and say - my family is not any of these things.


Closing Statement from Ishika Ghose

The first person who must learn is I myself! Insight.
I must try and learn from this "conversation" how to put my "question/idea" in a way in which most people can understand the question first ---- without taking offence, becoming defensive or analysing my reasons for questioning.

What was also interesting and partly expected were the very very angry responses I had from one of the earlier contributors Edward Long.There were times when I felt I had offended him personally.

The idea per se has not evolved/changed in any way as a result of this conversation.
Perhaps because I was looking for more people who would accept the idea itself rather than ask for solutions simultaneously.

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  • May 4 2013: Thank you Krisztian !! Will Edward please take note! One more person "hears" me! No I have not progressed to the next step - the alternative to the family - yet!

    Mary, your thought of substituting the word "family" with marriage/government/religion - well I consider them all "family" structures. The family being the unit and everything else multiples and variations of that unit.
    I think the accepted belief that the "dysfunctional family" is the exception rather than the rule is wrong. Its the other way around. My thoughts. May be over the top. But my perspective on the world as I see it.
    And as for the "human" angle to it - but ofcourse we are "human". This conversation would not be happening if we were not.

    Scot, am trying to see if other people consider this idea/graffiti of mine a problem too. And only then can we look for solutions. I daresay most people have found their own solutions and others are "happy" just to live with it. No one really wants to rock the boat.
    Many have rejected the family structure completely - the "loners/misfits/outcasts" (labelled by society not me), and are not even going to respond to TED conversations. I wish one of them would.

    Edward dear, your persistent protestations are wonderful! I look forward to them. Where would this "graffiti" be without you adding a little bit to it every day?
    They tell me more than you can imagine. Dont stop!

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