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Ishika Ghose

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The "family" is the most over-rated, hypocritical social structure that we have. The roots of most social ills lie within the family

Inequality, gender bias, favouritism, abuse, fanaticism. White-washing and "fakebooking".
Look closely at your own and say it is free from any or all of this.
Blessed is the person who can put her/his hand on their heart and say - my family is not any of these things.


Closing Statement from Ishika Ghose

The first person who must learn is I myself! Insight.
I must try and learn from this "conversation" how to put my "question/idea" in a way in which most people can understand the question first ---- without taking offence, becoming defensive or analysing my reasons for questioning.

What was also interesting and partly expected were the very very angry responses I had from one of the earlier contributors Edward Long.There were times when I felt I had offended him personally.

The idea per se has not evolved/changed in any way as a result of this conversation.
Perhaps because I was looking for more people who would accept the idea itself rather than ask for solutions simultaneously.

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  • May 2 2013: My family is not any of these things. I guess I'm blessed? I agree with you that the family done wrong is VERY wrong. I would agree that most social ills lie within the family, but I wouldn't agree that that is because of the existence of family. I would say most social ills come from broken families. By "broken" I mean non-functioning, not divorced. There are plenty of families where all of those things you describe exist. But it doesn't have to be this way. I also know plenty of happy families that love each other, help each other out, and genuinely enjoy spending time in each other's company. Yes, they have their problems and struggles just like anyone else, but as a whole they are sincerely happy with each other. My family isn't fakely happy. I'm part of it, I know we're happy. So the question is, how do we help the dysfunctional, unhappy families causing all these societal problems change into happy ones? What are your thoughts? I have some if you're interested.
    • May 3 2013: Thank you Scot.
      You are indeed blessed.

      As you say "there are plenty of families where all of those things you describe exist".

      More than we know or acknowledge.
      • May 3 2013: I am kind of confused what you're trying to accomplish with this thread though. Are you trying to raise awareness of problems in families? That's a good thing. But people will be a lot more willing to listen if you have some suggestions on how to fix the problem as well.

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