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The "family" is the most over-rated, hypocritical social structure that we have. The roots of most social ills lie within the family

Inequality, gender bias, favouritism, abuse, fanaticism. White-washing and "fakebooking".
Look closely at your own and say it is free from any or all of this.
Blessed is the person who can put her/his hand on their heart and say - my family is not any of these things.


Closing Statement from Ishika Ghose

The first person who must learn is I myself! Insight.
I must try and learn from this "conversation" how to put my "question/idea" in a way in which most people can understand the question first ---- without taking offence, becoming defensive or analysing my reasons for questioning.

What was also interesting and partly expected were the very very angry responses I had from one of the earlier contributors Edward Long.There were times when I felt I had offended him personally.

The idea per se has not evolved/changed in any way as a result of this conversation.
Perhaps because I was looking for more people who would accept the idea itself rather than ask for solutions simultaneously.

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    May 1 2013: Families are made of people. Anything made of people has the potential for good or evil. If our parents are screwed up, we have two choices. 1) be defeated & become screwed up parents ourselves, or 2) Learn from their mistakes & become better parents. My family & my wife's family were pretty screwed up; we went for option 2).
    What would you replace the family with ? I seems the best option to me.

    • May 2 2013: Peter
      I am only asking a question not looking for solutions.
      Humans find the solutions once they admit there may be a problem.
      The family has gone on for ever. It is unlikely that there will be an alternative.
      Communes were once very fashionable but died out.
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        May 2 2013: Why are you asking a question without looking for solutions? What is the point of your post? Are you raising awareness regarding the evils of traditional family structure? Do you want responses to your post or are you simply using TED Conversations as a wall for your graffiti? Please advise.
        • May 2 2013: Dear Edward
          Would be nice to have honest answers to the question first, now that you admit there may actually be a question!

          The solutions, if there are any to be had, follow the answers.

          Each person will find their own solution or their own way as Adelo and Peter Law have already described in this conversation.

          I am sorry you think it is graffiti. Then again a lot of people now treat graffiti as art!

          I could also ask you why you sound so angry. Then again this is a free forum, You are free to be angry and I am free to post an idea which you consider graffiti.

          Yes I do want replies to my "idea/graffiti".
          Even a simple yes or no , with or without solutions,would do.
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        May 2 2013: RE: Dear Edward. . . " I have not seen a question in your post. What sense would there be in a "yes" or "no" answer to an unasked question? I am simply curious why you have engaged in a free exchange of ideas but are making response to your idea very difficult by limiting them to a "yes" or a "no" when you have not asked a question. Do you really not get it, or are you being recalcitrant by design? Let's start over. To what exact question do you want a yes or no answer? Are you implying a yes/no; agree/disagree/; true/false question? If so, my answer is "NO/DISAGREE/FALSE". What you are experiencing here is similar to a family environment where others show patience and a desire to resolve difficulties by rational, respectful exchanges. Dive in Ishika!
        • May 3 2013: "Look closely at your own and say it is free from any or all of this."
          That is the "question"
          You can respond in any way you like. I am not making it "difficult."

          I see neither rationale nor respect for my "idea" in your comments.
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        May 3 2013: RE: Look closely at . . . " I am not obligated, qualified, or motivated to offer a rationale for your idea. I am not sufficiently informed to even consider expressing respect for your idea. Please explain how the following statement represents a question: "Look closely at your own and say it is free from any or all of this." What sense would it make if I answered "Yes", or "no", to that statemnent? I suspect you simply put some graffiti on the TED "wall" and did not expect to be held accountable to support your remarks. Well, you are responsible so support your absolute condemnation of the family as a social entity. Elaborate. Explain. Justify with data. Thank you Ishika!

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