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Do you write letters on a regular basis? Is this an important habit to model for our children? How do we renew appreciation for letters?

What do you do in your family to encourage letter writing? Do you save letters, and if so, do you ever share and reread them? I would be interested in how others keep letter writing alive in the world.


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  • Apr 30 2013: I think letter writing has been superceded by e-mail. Those of us that wrote many letters before e-mail remember them fondly. Getting a letter was so much more personal than an e-mail. I feel the same way about reading hard copies of books rather than .pdf files.

    I did do something a bit unusual when my kids were growing up. Two or three times a year I wrote them a letter as if they were an adult and described what was happening in their lives, my life, and usually some perspective on an adult topic of some sort (finances, sex, education, raising children, business, religion, etc.). I wound up with about 30 letters for each kid.

    The thought was initially that I might die before I could talk to them as adults, and if i did, then the letters might convey my thoughts and might be interesting. Since I managed to stay alive, I sent each child a few of the letters at college when they went away from home.

    I was a bit disappointed with the response, but I guess much of it was repetitive with my parental rhetoric as they grew up. I made a copy though and sent thought I might give them a second copy when they had kids of thier own. Maybe they can learn from my mistakes.
    • May 1 2013: I think it's fantastic that you wrote those letters to your children, and the fact that they didn't appreciate them at the time doesn't mean that they won't down the road. I just posted a blog entry (Life Letters: lswatson.blogspot.com) regarding a childhood friend of mine who died at 38 - I have dozens of letters from her that I treasure. A letter can be read and reread, savored and saved.

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