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Ayla Ford

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Does everything that we do in life revolve around finding a mate?

Being a senior in high school, I have observed my actions and the actions of those around me and something interesting has caught my attention. From the very moment we wake till we go to sleep at night we are planning our lives around what appeals to the opposite sex. I was wondering can we move past our animalistic nature and be forward thinking on our own or are we always to be caught in the rut of companionship? I caught myself forming life goals around a man that I have yet to meet, my plans to travel have already been stifled by the notion that in my pursuit of world travel I might miss out on my "one true love."


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  • Apr 29 2013: Well - interesting and honest question..even brave!

    I think this is about hope and uncertainty - this is about future...which mean no harm in thinking or being vigilant about yourself, your feelings and hoping for love and care now or in future - this is good thing. However, your life should revolve around only one person that is YOU...with time you will learn people, friends, close friends, and even lovers will come and go but this shouldn't change the fact that you remain the most important person of your life...I mean to say you shouldn't be delaying anything thinking I'll do this once I'll have a partner...too much dependancy made us needy and no one likes a needy person! Thus, I think our world shouldn't revolve around anyone as this way someone else will control us and this never brings happiness in any way.....

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