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Ayla Ford

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Does everything that we do in life revolve around finding a mate?

Being a senior in high school, I have observed my actions and the actions of those around me and something interesting has caught my attention. From the very moment we wake till we go to sleep at night we are planning our lives around what appeals to the opposite sex. I was wondering can we move past our animalistic nature and be forward thinking on our own or are we always to be caught in the rut of companionship? I caught myself forming life goals around a man that I have yet to meet, my plans to travel have already been stifled by the notion that in my pursuit of world travel I might miss out on my "one true love."


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    Apr 27 2013: Ayla, that is such a beautiful question!

    And my answer to your question is absolute not! You can not seek your mate. If you do, you may well push him away. You must live your life for yourself, and in the process of doing that you may find yourself falling in love with someone you probably had no idea you would meet.

    For a visual metaphor, imagine trying to catch a butterfly. If you chase it too hard, he will fly away. You need to be yourself, and then the butterfly may well land on your nose.

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