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Ayla Ford

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Does everything that we do in life revolve around finding a mate?

Being a senior in high school, I have observed my actions and the actions of those around me and something interesting has caught my attention. From the very moment we wake till we go to sleep at night we are planning our lives around what appeals to the opposite sex. I was wondering can we move past our animalistic nature and be forward thinking on our own or are we always to be caught in the rut of companionship? I caught myself forming life goals around a man that I have yet to meet, my plans to travel have already been stifled by the notion that in my pursuit of world travel I might miss out on my "one true love."

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    Apr 27 2013: Ayla, I'm a old guy (70) and have a opinion ... an that is all it is .. an opinion. Many people are falling into the marketing trap. Ads, movies, books, and pressure from peers and family all leads us down a road we are "expected" to follow. Traditionally it was the "job" of the woman to marry and reproduce. How many times does a grandparent ask about when your going to make them a great grandmother. Ads are everywhere ... wear this and the next scene is in a bar with a guy hitting on you ... buy this and you will be walking on the beach with a hunk ....

    IMO that is some of the reason that many marragies break up. The partners are following the charcter in a book, movie, or thinking the ads were right .... we met in a bar so why are you mad I still go there ... his body was great but you found out his head was empty ...

    So here is the old guys advice. Be yourself. Lies will catch up and destroy your chances. Don't spend time looking .. let things happen naturally. Marry someone you can be friends with .. because that will always be your best friend. Build on friendshi[p and respect ... those are the rock foundations of any relationship. If you can't talk to each other then the road will be very difficult.

    In high school and college men reach for the apples that are low on the tree. Whe selecting a wife we reach for the best apple ... the one high on the tree.

    I didn't look for a mate ... I looked for a life partner and found my wife and best friend all in one.

    I wish you well. Bob.
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      Apr 30 2013: Bob, that was beautiful! Brought a tear to this old man's eye, you really are a "Winner!" :-)

      God Bless

      - Todd C.

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