Fountain Abani

President, Student Representative Council of UOWD, University of Wollongong in Dubai


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What happens when different people come together to play the same game with different rules without knowing about the differences?

I have found that many people play life's game with different rules and meet with people with different rules of engagement. I don't get why this is so but some how I think the out may not be pleasant. What do you think is the reason behind this and the outcome?

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    Apr 21 2013: Fountain,
    Whatever happens when different people come together with different cultures, backgrounds and ideas about life, is whatever we create as individuals. It is not surprising that we perceive things differently, and this can lead to a pleasant, or unpleasant depends a lot on what our perception is of the interaction.

    If we begin an interaction believing that our thoughts, feelings, ideas, perceptions and opinions are the one and only "right" way, we may not have a pleasant outcome. If, however, we begin each and every interaction knowing and accepting that everyone may have different ideas, we can be open to possibilities for the interaction to evolve in a very pleasant way. In my perception, every interaction is an opportunity to learn, grow and evolve as an individual, while being fully present in the moment. To me, we are all more the same than different, because we share many of the same emotions and life experiences. The differences are a gift, because it is an opportunity to experience something that I may not have previously known.

    This TED talk seems relevant to this conversation:
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      Apr 21 2013: Colleen,
      Its always pleasant to read your comments on any subject. Your open-mindedness and amiable spirit is just a gift to the TED community. I can't agree any more with you. It depends on our ability to approach a new interaction or engagement with empathy and a desire to learn what the other party's views are. Despite the potency of our nature and nurture, our choices to be flexible is what makes us who we eventually become
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        Apr 22 2013: Thank you for that feedback Fountain:>)

        Being open minded, with a desire to learn in a flexible way is MY pleasure, and a gift to myself. It feels a LOT better than the alternative.

        I appreciate your open-mindedness, compassion, empathy and kindness as well:>)
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      Apr 22 2013: Chris
      Thanks for your honesty. We are often irritated by actions that originates from a different mindset that is different from ours. And that is what happens when people with different cultural backgrounds come to work together. This difference in rules of engagement and success affects are our success in engaging with them.
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    Apr 21 2013: Nature, nurture, and the choices people make.

    on nurture their home society's values and their values, education, upbringing, the level of corruption in their home society, resources, role models, the strategies they develop to get ahead and self discipline (also part nature).

    Diversity can be enriching, but too much diversity in values can be problematic.
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    Apr 21 2013: It depends on who the people are and what the game is. I would hope -- since they have the capacity -- they would reconcile. I am an optimist.
  • Apr 21 2013: The differences are related to personality and culture and who knows what else. Good point as it happens all the time.
  • Apr 21 2013: That situation seems much like real life.
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      Apr 21 2013: Thanks ZX Style, your response is right on point. Yes we have people whose values and beliefs allowed them to design their individual rules of success in a certain way. Yes it could be very similar among people in a mono cultural environment but it breeds conflict and distrust in an intercultural workspace.
      Thanks for your insight it will be good to hear more from you.
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    Apr 20 2013: If I understand your question correctly, I believe there are many common features in how humans interact and some patterns that are specific to people's cultures and communities. For example, we speak in different languages, because different languages "work." When a variety of things "work," we can expect a variety of forms to crop up.

    There are some facial expressions that, I have read, have essentially the same meaning in all cultures, and others that vary for different cultures.

    When people interact, their best guesses of what people mean by what they say and don't say and what they do are based on what they are used to in their communities or what they have been told about other communities. Or people form stereotypes based on some experience in their past or needs that they have and have a hard time getting beyond them, in part because emotional response is not even conscious and can become ingrained at that level.

    The consequences in terms of misunderstandings, actions people take because of misunderstandings, and collaborations that don't work well are apparent.
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    Apr 20 2013: A society would become a confused one if citizens have not clear values or similar views of right and wrong.
    Problems arise when people give excuses for their failings (or think they can) while they expect 'others' to always play by the rules.