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Singer Songwriter & Vocal Coach, Lizanne Hennessey - Voice Coach


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Are we really all the same?

We are all unique.
Which by definition means, we are all different.
Which, in turn, should mean we're all the same.
But we're not, because we're all unique.



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    Apr 20 2013: Hello again Lizanne:>)
    I believe we are more the same than different. In my perception, we are all interconnected, we all share the earth, and we all share many of the same thoughts, feelings and emotions.

    We are different because we are born into different cultures, with different backgrounds, and that, to me, is the gift we can share with each other. Even though THAT is a difference, we are the same, because we all have the opportunity to share what is different!!!
    • Apr 22 2013: Hi Colleen! Good to see you again! :)

      Hear, hear!
      Yes, our backgrounds provide a wealth of experience to share. We all know how it feels to meet someone who has a similar background. To have 'things in common' is reassuring, it means there are certain things you don't need to explain. I think, when you need to explain or justify where you come from, that's when your background becomes 'baggage' (a terrible term!)

      I read about your out-of-body experience and have a feeling you might know more about this feeling of being interconnected than anyone! I look forward to sharing more thoughts and ideas with you!
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        Apr 22 2013: Hi Lizanne:>)
        Yes, if we are aware, we know how good it feels to meet someone who is similar in some ways:>)

        Do you think/feel that the circumstances under which we are explaining may make a difference? If we are explaining something to a person who genuinely wants to learn about us, it feels good to me, and it provides an opportunity to share information for both participants.

        Whereas, if we are explaining for the purpose of justifying, or proving ourselves to be "right", that doesn't feel so good to me, and I do not participate in those conversations.

        Is it all "baggage" in your perception? Or is it the intent that is the "baggage"?
        • Apr 23 2013: Hi Colleen! Hey, did you get a haircut?? ;)

          Absolutely! As soon as you feel the need to justify yourself, I agree, something isn't right...
          But I feel it's something people often encounter, maybe because of the human desire to 'fit in'?

          I have the feeling often that I don't fit in, maybe because I am a 'third culture kid' (otherwise known as 'terminally unique syndrome'!!), my background is more often than not so very different from those I interact with on a daily basis, I also do not participate in conversations that make me feel like I need to justify where I'm coming from. At the same time, I certainly don't try to force my views, formed by the unique circumstances in which I was brought up, on others. It comes down to respect.

          To me, nothing is baggage. Baggage implies a burden, something you have to carry around. Everything you have gone through is what makes you who you are, is what distinguishes you from someone else, is the combination of ingredients that make you you.

          I like to think we are cocktails of all different flavors, mixed up, stirred or shaken, and meant to be enjoyed!
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        May 1 2013: Hi Lizanne,
        I agree...nothing is baggage, unless we choose to carry it as such, and everything we have experienced makes us who and what we are.

        You wrote in a previous comment...
        "I think, when you need to explain or justify where you come from, that's when your background becomes 'baggage' (a terrible term!)"

        My belief and practice, is that we can grow and evolve with the information learned from our experiences, OR, we can carry it as a burden (baggage) throughout the life adventure, which, in my perception makes it either a burden, or an opportunity......as we choose:>)

        Yes indeed...."we are cocktails of all different flavors, mixed up, stirred or shaken, and meant to be enjoyed!"
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      Apr 22 2013: Hi Colleen! That's a sweet smile my friend. I see your new haircut!! :)
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        Apr 23 2013: Thanks Pabitra,
        We are the same in that we have the ability to share smiles.
        We may be different, because some folks do not yet know how valuable smiling is to ourselves and others:>)

        BTW...hair is not cut....it is getting really long and hiding in the back of the head:>)
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        Apr 23 2013: Smiles are indeed a gift to all of us Pabitra....glad you discovered that:>)

        LOL...Yes, I have a "great grey braid". And here we go again with the same/different concept.
        The braiding is the same as in the portrait you provide the link for. The hair color and other characteristics are a wee bit different!!! LOL:>)

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