- Genevieve Tran
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What happens to chivalry once women are "equal" to men?
In Sweden, as most of the scandinavian countries, gender equality exists more so than in other parts of the world. (See: http://www.weforum.org/reports-results?fq=report%5Esocial%3A%22Gender%20equality%22 ) However, informally, among my Swedish friends, I am hearing about some side effects of this much sought-after socialization of equality:
Some Swedish women friends complain Swedish men are not very chivalrous: won't buy dinner or drinks, won't go out of their way, want compensation or reciprocation for having done things, for women. However, women say that men make time to talk (about anything) and absolutely help with the household work.
Some Swedish men complain that Swedish women feel overly entitled to things that they did not necessarily earn: affection, gifts, favours etc. That they expect chivalry at the expense of men. That they chastise men for not being more manly. But the men absolutely encourage women to assert themselves and go for whatever it is they want / deserve.
I feel that in North America, and other societies that are still not "there" yet, women's efforts to be equal to men may be partially thwarted by their own ingrained socialized thinking that chivalry is / will always be necessary in the dance between men and women. Some Swedish women even miss it!