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Have you ever felt your thought is not very independent ? How you solve it ?

Do the western children think of this question earlier than the eastern children ?

Is the concept important to us or it' s just one of the troubles we so-called " Everybody has had it . "

How are you guys ' parents leading you ?

As a 17-year-old student ,I have thought of this question long before .
I don't think come up with your own viewpoint is a shame . I don't want to " Passive accepted " . I can accept your core after you convince me .

I think an independent character is the fundamental of a person . So i begin to cultivating my own value of the world .

After i have read books , watched the speech . I sill have puzzles . But i can't debate with my friends because ,in china , people who concerned the mental issue become more and more lessening.

People will think you are a freak, your friends also don't want to talk this topic with you because it seems like too heavy and it will show to us how ignorant we are .

Some people often think that Chinese youth don't have their own spirits or creeds .

But i believe there must be many sober people .

We also have a mind system of our own ,we just don not know how to arouse it .


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    Apr 15 2013: Hello freeair zhao.....I love your profile photo:>)

    I do not perceive my thoughts to be totally independent, because I perceive everything as interconnected, and my thoughts are influenced by all the information that I explore. I agree that parents certainly influence their children, and children often accept the information provided by parents. I do not understand why you refer to this as a problem that needs to be solved. I think/feel it is part of the human experience.

    I think it is GREAT that you come up with your own viewpoint after exploring, evaluating and considering information.

    I still have "puzzles" after 60+ years on this earth, so that is ok, in my perception. I will be exploring and learning until I take my last breath:>)

    If you cannot talk about your thoughts, feelings, ideas, concerns and opinions with your friends, I'm glad you came to TED where you can perhaps put some of the puzzles together. It appears that you are arousing and stimulating your mind very well:>)

    Nice to meet you.....welcome to TED:>)
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      Apr 15 2013: Thank you ~ :)

      When I read your reply I feel my heart is fill with warm .

      Actually I am kind of afraid to communicate with you , or the different people . Because the different regime , the prejudices about each other .

      But I still put foward this topic .I think I should face the objection .

      It's so hard that evey time I am prompted there is a new email , which make me too scare to browse the content . Frankly ,I feared to be criticised but meanwhile I want to be judged or, lightly , be teaching .

      In my subconscious , my heart want to find frustrations and want experience the bitter from the setback . I want to be stronger and tougher . I don' t want change my consciousness casually just because somebody's derision .

      PS : I didn't say that be affected by parent is a problem .I just as a case ,because I want to know the different between the Chineses parent and the Euramerican's .
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        Apr 15 2013: Hello again freeair zhao :>)

        Thank you for the feedback, which fills my heart with warmth as well:>)

        No need to be afraid to communicate my friend. You seem like a very insightfull person....trust yourself.....believe in yourself.....ok?

        If you discover prejudice, or comments that do not feel comfortable, you do not have to communicate with that person again. We are all teachers and students sharing information in our world.....believe in yourself.

        Sorry, I cannot offer any information regarding your question about the difference in Chinese parents and Euramericans......I don't know. I have friends in China.....I will ask and see if they have ideas about that:>)
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          Apr 23 2013: I 'm soooo sorry ,my email didn't remind me of your reply..

          Thank you I feel vigour back to my life . Thank you for the comfort .

          I try to ignore the teasing .

          Thank you again !
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        Apr 23 2013: My pleasure freeair zhao! Nice to see you communicating here on TED:>)

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