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Why are you a "good" person?

Are you a good person for the sake of good?

Or are you good because you think it gives you benefits?

Are you afraid of being bad? Cant you imagine that? Are you not bad because you think it will lead to bad things for you?

If you were punished for being good would you still be good?

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    Apr 11 2013: The more 'good' I do, the more I am able to enjoy and fulfill my life. Knowing that a simple action of mine has made someone - even a complete stranger, else feel loved, appreciated and cared about is more of a reward than any sum of money.
    A chain reaction of doing good can easily be triggered and your "good person" ways can lead to someone else being a good person.
    I believe this also works in reverse and doing "bad" things will result in those who are effected doing bad things which can come back to indirectly have a negative impact. Everything can eventually affect anything involving anyone t ay point for any reason. So think before you act and chose to do something good which may come back around and lead to something good happening to you, and if not then so what, you successfully made someones day, surely that is enough! :)
    xoxox
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    May 1 2013:
    My answer to
    "Why are you a "good" person?" :

    It is because I know how to symbiosize for keeping our DNA alive,
    instinctively and consciously.
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    Apr 13 2013: For and as long as my good actions. Beyond that I am pretty useless to others.
  • Apr 12 2013: Hello . . .

    This question is surely challenging.
    Years ago when I saw a girl - who was in the same class with me - treated badly and mocked by my boy classmates, I always asked myself, "Why did they like to do bad things?" And then, I silently thought, "Why didn't she take revenge?" But, for a moment, I considered it again and again. "Is it right to avenge?" I pondered.

    Well, since I was a kid, my parents always taught me to be good to others if I wanted to be treated good as well (what goes around comes around). I have been sticking that teaching in my mind since.

    When I was in junior high school, there once a time I treated my senior badly. All of a sudden, a little sound - deep in my mind and heart - warned me, "Put yourself in her shoes!" That sound was a lightning to me, striking to the deepest part of me. From that day on, I learned. I learned to think twice before I acted. And I learned to be a good person since.

    Moreover, if I treat someone badly, the feeling of guilt will haunt me. I don't want to live a haunted life like that. He . . he . . he . .
    :)
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    Apr 11 2013: Living in a way that benefits my own learning, growth and evolution, while contributing to the whole, feels much better than the alternative, and that is one of the benefits:>)
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    Apr 11 2013: Mark 10:18 (NIV)
    “Why do you call me good?” Jesus answered. “No one is good---except God alone.

    :-)
  • Apr 11 2013: Maybe you just want to avoid getting punished by it? Care about mor ethen you have to? Some people i find care more about it then others. Usually when people are given a choise being helpful or not, and they get away with both the only ones that still tries to be kind is the religous people.
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      Apr 11 2013: "the only ones that still tries to be kind is the religous people."?

      I do not observe this statement to be true Emil
  • Apr 11 2013: If you would hurt someone and get away with it. Would you care?
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      Apr 11 2013: I believe we are all connected, so in hurting someone, I am also hurting myself.
  • Apr 11 2013: So you are just good be cause you were raised that way? Just because you are used to it? Following orders? You dont really think about it?

    Are you really seeking social approval and you assume that being a good person means you will gain something from it?
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      Apr 11 2013: I don't have to think about it because, yes, that is how I was raised. My father tried to "order" what he wanted, and my mother encouraged a genuine, loving exploration of life. I had a choice regarding which role model I accepted. My mom's perception and practices won!
  • Apr 11 2013: I believe that the core of our very existence is 'good' and it believes in giving and being good. Although we are capable of doing extremely bad things, they are a result of the kind of environment we are born in and our upbringing in that environment. I have been conditioned from my childhood that " you will reap what you sow". The importance of karma has been immense in the society that i have grown in. This has inculcated a fear in my mind about the outcome of doing something bad. Still, this fear does not stop me completely from doing bad things. A lot of times it is the authority that governs me and the repercussions of breaking a certain law. Also, I would say that I am good because all my needs are met.
  • Apr 11 2013: I am good person because I define "good".