adebo ifesanya

Electric and Electronics Engineer, Electrical Engineering

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What from your childhood experience produced "what" or "who" you are now?

Freeman Hrabowski said, "we are all products of our childhood experience..." I was conflicted on this statement, one part of me thinks this seals my possibilities now, so I refuse it but then another part thinks there is truth to the statement looking at my past. As a Nigerian kid, I gave up a childhood dream of building space shuttles simply because I was presented a career option that guaranteed me "life success", by someone who new nothing about my dream. Two decades later I can say I was a product of that choice.

And as Jason Prager said, "Who was I? Was I who I had been ... before this road divided my life like the spine of an open book? Were all of us the results of things done [or said] to us ... our bodies, their endowments and deficits? It seems that we could be nothing more than genes and experiences," who and what.

  • May 3 2013: I very clearly remember my defining childhood experience/ First grade they allowed us to visit the school library. I returned home with 6 books on science, which I placed on a shelf in the hall, just like in the library! They were the only books in our house at that time and everyone wondered at my fascination with them. It was at that moment that I knew that I wanted to be a scientist/engineer and I've never wavered from that path in the succeeding 50 years!
  • Apr 10 2013: I used to sit on the front porch, as a kid, & listen to my great uncle talk when he came to visit. He only showed up about once every 3-4 yrs. or so, but his wealth of knowledge, on just about every subject, was vast cause he made it a point to learn from various sources.
    He was the spark, in coming years, to learn and keep on learning. It has broaden my mind in so many ways and been a great help to me in my later years.
    I had many dreams and still do, and yes I am a true dreamer.
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    Apr 12 2013: Adebo,
    EVERYTHING from my life experiences contributed to who and what I am now......everything.....every single moment.....in my humble perception:>)

    Nothing "seals" our possibilities unless we choose to believe that concept. You say yourself...."I can say I was a product of that choice"......it was a choice, which contributed to your life experience.....correct?

    For me, it is important to realize HOW I use the information. For example: At age 30, I was diagnosed with degenerative disc disease in the spine, which is generally a progressively degenerating dis-ease. It is not unusual in older folks, as a part of the aging process. However, I was only 30, and I was told that it is generally, progressively disabling. After taking pain meds, traction, neck brace, etc. none of which relieved the pain, medical professionals suggested fusing part of the spine, which WOULD cause imobilization.

    I researched many holistic practices, and decided to strengthen the muscular system to support the degenerating spine. After 10 years, I was the strongest I had ever been in my life, both emotionally and physically. Then I bashed my head in....near fatal head/brain injury caused by a horseback riding accident....OH CRAP....here we go again!

    I learned, with the DDD, how to strengthen and rebuild the body/mind and all the connections. So, when I was told I was going to be disabled and would never function "normally" again because of the head injury, in the back of my mind (such as it was), I believed that I could rebuild AGAIN.

    I totally agree with you.....we are a product of the choices we make, and the important part is HOW we use the information. NOTHING "seals" our possibilities, unless that is the belief we choose to embrace......make any sense?
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      Apr 13 2013: Thanks Colleen for sharing generously yourself. I love it!
  • Apr 10 2013: Alfred Lord Tennyson tells us that " I am part of all that i have seen and done" in Ulysses.
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      Apr 12 2013: Hence I am this global society, this world! Sounds like, I am a product rather a being?

      (Thanks for your comment.)
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    Apr 19 2013: I can say I am a product of my childhood, even as a kid I was building things, tree forts, sk8board ramps ( thank you construction sites ), taking apart every device I had ( Sorry Alphie and speak and spell ( every other toy I had ) And even today I find myself going, what's it look like without all this junk making it look supposedly pretty. I went into the Air force after High school, and even in there I ended up studying Aircraft Engineering and learning and taking apart Fighter Jets.

    I am now currently working in engineering still, using both what I learned as a child and in the Air force to have even more destructive learning curves. It's who I am and nothing I do will ever make me stop looking at things like this, just can't help wondering how things function and what is needed to make them do what they do.

    It's this very aspect of who we are that needs to be encouraged inside every human being on this planet, our world and humanity will benefit from such actions.
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      Apr 20 2013: Thanks man! would you say who you are is "figure it out"?
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        Apr 20 2013: I'd say who am I as a personality and mindset ( equipped with goals and aspirations ) Yes, that is figured out, how to take myself and manifest those ideas with current resources is another story. *grins*

        But yes who I am is figured out and a direct reflection of my childhood.
  • Apr 14 2013: really interesting
  • Apr 13 2013: Okay, maybe I was a little onesided. You are both a product and a being, but there is a great deal of programming.
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    Apr 12 2013: Adebo,
    I just thought of this......have you ever seen Nicholas Vujicic?

    Speaking of childhood experiences....what may "seal" our possibilites....or not.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gc4HGQHgeFE
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    Apr 12 2013: Similarly Sigmund Freud believed that are behaviour the the things we do are a result of our childhood experiences, though he looked at it in a slightly more controversial manor.
    I think that to some extent, yes - our experiences whilst we are growing up do influence our futures and help develop us into who we are. However I think it depends on what we consider apart of who we are and how we look at ourselves and how we got to the place we are currently at in our lives.
    I suppose a way to look at this question is with examples; as a child you may have had a pet who you loved and cherished dearly, the 20 years later, still possessing your love for your old pet, you become a vet. Would you have become a vet anyway because other paths would have lead you to the realisation that it was what you wanted to do?
    it is a thought provoking and tough question to answer though I shall be watching this space as I'm interested in hearing what peoples views on this are. I'm sure some very good answers will be posted over the next several days!
    :)
    xoxox
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      Apr 12 2013: Interesting :) Thanks for your inputs. Are you the child with the pet?
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    Apr 10 2013: I would not be surprised if just a few people would provide an answer to this and be sure of it.
    So many things go into the making of a human being. Even though childhood years speaks of a foundation; but on it a whole lot is built by choices, circumstances and opportunities. Our experiences are unique within the context of humanity; hence the saying "We are one, but not the same".

    We are what we are; and we are who we are. Who we say we are; and who people say we are, may be different from who and what we really are.
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      Apr 12 2013: But that last statement "Who we say we are; and who people say we are, may be different from who and what we really are." How can any of us BE if we don't know or are confuse about "who I are"? That would be a susceptible life with chaos.

      (Thanks for your comment)