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What did you learn about relationships during childhood?

During childhood everybody learns from the relationships they see. Whatever your situation, which messages did you pick up?

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    Apr 9 2013: I learned that if you do not get the love and support from your family ,you can find love in nature and the love of "godliness" that if you never experience greatness within your family..you can tell your self this was a test of your spirit and when you fall in life and learn to stay loving,and giving and kind and generous and patient ..the reward is to live a personal life of goodness...that all of this may be done with little to no support..and to be thankful it was not a harder test during childhood to rise up to the challenge and become the best I am capable of
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    Apr 14 2013: I made a "saved to memory" around the age of 8 regarding relationships that I had witnessed, and that basically but importantly was that whoever I ended up "liking" or having a relationship with in the future, the most important thing was to be myself. If a person changes who they are in hopes of having their partner like them better, I noticed then the obviousness that happiness for each person would not be the end result.
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    Apr 9 2013: I think what is both quite unfortunate and equally beneficial is that what I tended to learn about relationships in my childhood...is what not to do in a relationship...

    I suppose the main five traits I received would have been:
    1. Never be disloyal to your partner
    2. Always communicate when there is an issue
    3. Never accept a partner who you could describe as 'not good enough'
    4. Shouting, screaming and violence accomplish little/nothing
    5. Children shouldn't have to deal with or even be aware of adult problems and concerns.

    I think the central foundation to what I learned about relationships is that its always best to only consider a person for a possible relationship after objective thought and contemplation as to whether they're ultimately suited for you.

    Personally it has always worked well for me as I've yet to have a relationship end that was the result of my actions and within my control (albeit the reasons are all the more annoying, such as them leaving the country etc etc)
    But I suppose on reflection, even the negatives provided me with constructive conclusions, so it was still positive, even when it wasn't.
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    Apr 9 2013: I learned a few things based on love in relationships during my childhood. One is that, even if someone is wronged by a person they love, the love will still stand strong (wish more people learned this). Another is that physical attributions to love in a relationship should typically be shared before and after a duration of not seeing each other, such as before bed, or before leaving. This deriving from the goodnight and goodbye kiss, as well as the welcome home hug and kiss. I also learned to share (three brothers and two sisters).
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    Apr 9 2013: Hmm.
    There are "True" friends, and then there are just friends. (Or acquaintances!)
    Also people change their personality depending on the people they are socializing with, and when they get with the "in-group" they sometimes change, depending on what is expected of them.
    (Here is an article I just found on the matter of what this effect is called "Free trait theory" : http://phulme.wordpress.com/tag/free-trait-theory/)
    Otherwise, that humans are extremely social creatures! :D
    Hope this helps!
    (Just to say, if you define childhood as from 1-18, I am probably still in my childhood. :P)
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    Apr 9 2013: To let go. If it comes back it is yours. If it doesn't, it was never yours.
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    Apr 9 2013: The most general and relevant lesson is that relationships are based on trust. You cant follow every Tom, Dick and Harry that comes smiling at you and offering you sweets.
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    Apr 9 2013: The most general and relevant lesson is that relationships are based on trust. You cant follow every Tom, Dick and Harry that comes smiling at you and offering you sweets.