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Rhitik Bhatt

Student, St. Paul's School, Banswara

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Is comparing to each other good or bad?

I read Sir Ken Robinson's book "The Element". In that book there was a section "Does size matters?" maybe in chapter 3. So, in that part he discussed that in spite a person lack something that doesn't mean that he/she is not good enough. I thought he was right and nowadays we do scaling almost all the time. It is pretty dangerous it is leading to several crimes. Like a child killed his friend in India because his friend got better marks than him. I think parents should play a major role in these things. They should not compare their kids with other's. It's not the only case there are many of them.

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    Apr 2 2013: Comparing ourselves to each other is a way of establishing a kind of "normality" - a contrived state that some might live up to, some may rise above and others will fall below. It takes little or no account of the uniqueness of individuals, who may not actually want to be members of that exclusive elite called "normal".

    Even though all of us compare ourselves to each other, I still think it has undesirable consequences especially where such "normality" prefers to take more account of what people own, rather than who they are.
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      Apr 2 2013: Normal??? What is that??? LOL:>)

      Edit:
      OK....I'll be more serious now:>)
      I agree with you that comparing ourselves with each other may be a way to establish a kind "normality".....IF....we believe there is such a thing. I agree with you that it may often be a "contrived state", as you insightfully say.

      I think this practice may have "undesirable consequences" if we have expectations, including what we own (or do not own) as you mention.

      I will stick with my feeling/thought/belief.....
      "To use comparison, which I think/feel can be a tool for our own learning and growth, is neither good or bad. How we use the information gained from the comparison is the important piece."

      See any reason why that would not work councelor?
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        Apr 3 2013: "To use comparison, which I think/feel can be a tool for our own learning and growth, is neither good or bad. How we use the information gained from the comparison is the important piece."

        Agree entirely.

        Using such information constructively is probably the basis of "community", which is good, but a possible caveat could be that it could so easily slip into elitism and the rejection of those who are perceived as not belonging to it for whatever reason - which is negative for those on the outside, but feels positive (possibly) to those inside the elite group.

        What are your thoughts?
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          Apr 3 2013: Yes, I agree Allan. How we use the information and whether or not it is a constructive use is subjective, so our perception as individuals could "slip" into all kinds of interpretations.....yes?

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