Eneida Carvalho

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Is being romantic to be vulnerable?

Majority of people that I know would say yes .....

  • Apr 4 2013: I think being in love makes me half-vulnerable and half-strong; much much stronger if I can say. The feeling of loving someone is extraordinary. It makes me learn many things. Although it sometimes weakens me, but it also makes me grow and learn. It even makes me stronger. The present me is very different from the me in the past. Thus, the more I love someone, the stronger I get.
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    Mar 29 2013: this is exactly what I want to say...to open your self and let others see you, being honest , not being afraid to show who you really are with your imperfections, this allows you to connect with all your heart to others and at the same time make you vulnerable for the other to hart you .
  • Mar 29 2013: Being romantic it means being loving,being good,being strong..why be vulnerable?
    • Mar 29 2013: I think what Eneida means by "be vulnerable" is being open and letting people see your real emotions. Being honest and trusting your partner with everything. (correct me if I'm wrong, Eneida.) Loving relationships are built on commitment and honesty. Without that trust and openness, and hence the ability for the other to hurt you, it's very hard for love to grow. Now if you're just talking about being attractive and wooing someone with flowers or whatever, that's different. That may be romance, but it's not love. Romance can lead to and support love, but romance is not love. There's no need to be vulnerable to be romantic, but you need to be vulnerable to love.
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    Apr 11 2013: First to borrow a line from a book I read recently: "That which yields is not always weak." ~Jacqueline Carey

    The flat answer would be: Yes, being romantic is to be vulnerable.

    That being mentioned, I do not believe it would be correct to say that it is a negative. Consider that being romantic (read "love") essentially requires a person to be honest about their emotions in the first place else it would be more akin to lust. To open yourself up, to be honest about your emotions, takes a major risk which does lend to the idea that you can be hurt by the other person. Conversely, if you do not open up or be honest about your emotions then you would hurt yourself. Opening up about your emotions allows growth, learning, understanding, empathy, and a handful of other emotions which will increase your social and emotional growth. The pains that are caused from break-ups, divorces, infidelity, and all the other endings to a relationship eventually give the same results. If a person chooses not to take those risks it would not be far fetched to say that their emotional and social growth would become stunted.
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    Mar 31 2013: Being in love makes you vulnerable. But there is nothing like a life worth living without love.
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    Mar 30 2013: Being romantic is not vulnerable but reflects your empressement .

    Is a "weird" person really a freak ? Many people will say,"Don't judge by appearances ".But the fact is we usually ignore the basic rule. Otherwise ,there are not so many bully-events and the more bystanders.

    as the society becoming complicated, our feelings becoming sensitively .Somtimes indifferent not only represents our personal attitude it's also contained the ohers' .

    We suffering the public effect , we behave more and more gingerly.We begin to touchy and afaid to be moved because we don't know whether their conducts are sincerely .

    We afarid our kindness is misread and be treated as a fool so we pretent unconcerned.

    Being romantic is not only reflected your character, also responded your courage and attitude of life:

    You chose to be yourself .
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    Mar 30 2013: I think that's a leading question. :)
    Anyway, my answer would be an emphatic yes and I will qualify it by saying emotional security dims the colors of life and makes it too sterile for the liking of many. From their point of view the vulnerability is the essence of life experiences.
    I base my answer on the idea that you are using 'romantic' in contexts more profound than personal relationships.
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    Mar 29 2013: Vulnerable to what?
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    Mar 29 2013: Eneida,
    Why do you think the majority of people you know would say yes?

    Vulnerable: "capable of being wounded; open to attack or damage"

    It seems like the answer to your question depends on the individual and the circumstances?

    I perceive that it depends on how secure one is in his/herself, the situation in which that person chooses to be romantic, and the person they choose to be romantic with. If we feel vulnerable, it may not be the best romantic situation.....the intuition may be telling us something.
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    Mar 29 2013: It seems like the answer must be 'yes' but I think the answer must be 'not necessarily". The real matter is that if you're romantic, you're more vulnerable than if you aren't.
    That's a pity, but so it's life.
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    Mar 29 2013: When you write "being romantic," do you mean being in love?