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Is the golden rule flawed?

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

What if what you want for yourself is not what others want done to them?

Perhaps the Confucian version is better: Do not impose on others what you do not wish for yourself, rather than forcing your views on other people.

Perhaps we let people do there own thing up to the point where it harms others?


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    Mar 26 2013: The ethical principal of reciprocity appears to be a natural philosophy for any person who appreciates their own humanity. The following is an excerpt prepared by the Unitarians:

    "Ethic of Reciprocity" (Golden Rule) passages from various sources

    Native American Spirituality:
    "Respect for all life is the foundation." The Great Law of Peace.
    "All things are our relatives; what we do to everything, we do to ourselves. All is really One." Black Elk
    "Do not wrong or hate your neighbor. For it is not he who you wrong, but yourself." Pima proverb.

    Roman Pagan Religion:
    "The law imprinted on the hearts of all men is to love the members of society as themselves."

    "The heart of the person before you is a mirror. See there your own form" Munetada Kurozumi
    "Be charitable to all beings, love is the representative of God." Ko-ji-ki Hachiman Kasuga

    Compassion-mercy and religion are the support of the entire world". Japji Sahib
    "Don't create enmity with anyone as God is within everyone." Guru Arjan Devji 259
    "No one is my enemy, none a stranger and everyone is my friend." Guru Arjan Dev : AG 1299

    "The basis of Sufism is consideration of the hearts and feelings of others. If you haven't the will to gladden someone's heart, then at least beware lest you hurt someone's heart, for on our path, no sin exists but this." Dr. Javad Nurbakhsh, Master of the Nimatullahi Sufi Order.

    "Regard your neighbor's gain as your own gain, and your neighbor's loss as your own loss." T'ai Shang Kan Ying P'ien.

    Unitarian Universalism:
    "The inherent worth and dignity of every person;"
    "Justice, equity and compassion in human relations.... "

    This is not the only useful moral precept... and it may conflict with other precepts at times... such as when disciplining children who are at risk of damaging themselves... but I don't consider a limitation to necessarily indicate a flaw.
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      Mar 26 2013: Fantastic examples.
      I fully support reciprocity in principle, with the refinement about being careful when you are forcing something down the throat of other adults.

      And another refinement for children.


      It can be built upon.

      Most of us probably would like a society where people have a mix of community and indiviuaslism. Freedom, and contributing to the common good. I'd like to think so any way.

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