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How can you save a person who does not want to be saved or does not see the need to be saved?

Think you have a friend who has had a big problem for a while already. Be it drug addiction, depression, or any major problem you can think of. Many people have tried to talk to him/her and find solutions. Either he does not care, does not understand he is in trouble or does not see a point for him to get better and thus does nothing or even gets worse by the day. You see him wither away.

If you know for sure his life would be better if he acted differently how can you "force" a person to get better? ( If it is even possible).

Then you can also think this on a broader scale. I talked to few experts on health care field that what if there would be a place where people could be taken or could go in to voluntarily that is focused only to get people back to their feet in much more comprehensive way than anything there is today.

For example, a homeless person who used to have a good life is now in ruins and in brink of death. Suddenly men in white outfits come pick him up take him to a facility where he gets a normal day routine, exercise and counseling and all. After a year he is a changed man and thanks from the bottom of his heart that he was kind of forced to do a life change.(Someone who thinks this cost too much money can think now the person is a fully functioning member of society and can even pay a bit back from the work he will get, and personally I think its not even right to put a price tag for peoples lives).


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    Mar 26 2013: Life is a like a sea wave with up's and down's but the wave pattern never changes.

    People with problems end up in deadlock situation where they think only about the same problem again and again. Friend is a powerful relationship who are flexible when you are angry and when you are happy so you friends and relatives can bring in change in life. Moreover it is important to earn more people in life so that you can rest in their arms during your problematic period. But we will realize only after the problem arises.

    1. Keep talking to the person that he is right always. 2. Be with him/her for some days. 3. Take him to meet very high profile people around the city. 4. Keep telling about his future goals and where you see him in life. 5. If he is not married then tell about family life and if problem is his family life then tell him about the love for kids. 6. Create diversion in life.

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