Marriage is ....... ?
Please complete the sentence and then list your key ideas or points for or against marriage?
Closing Statement from Kate Blake
Thanks heaps to everyone who contributed! TEDsters do reflect a good cross section of society and the responses below demonstrate that. Thanks TED for the forum.
Marriage is so many things to so many people! The history of this church/state institution was touched on, others refer to it as Holy matrimony. Same gender marriage was hotly debated. Others said marriage was greatly overrated. Singles, married, divorced and those of various beliefs participated. So the comments below are well worth reading!
We had a few stayers who were married for nearly sixty years and Don shared some of his story as he works to reunite with his wife of many years. Some commenters have not ventured there yet and had idealistic views. One thought he was the authority so Chris posted his comments at the top completely out of context from the discussion where Colleen debated his views, and I questioned his use of terms that inflamed but it all adds to the flavor!
This conversation ran in tandem with another I started on "Divorce should be easy and accessible" the link is posted below. Both these arose from my concern that people make more informed choices about marriage or divorce by knowing about the for and against.
There is no black or white solutions only grey areas that impact on both families, neighbors, colleagues, etc. Participating in quality premarital counseling was considered essential. This usually covers issues such as religion, politics, finances, child rearing, family relationships, etc so that expectations are more grounded.
Using Barbara de Angelis "Are you the one for me?" as a workbook will help more objective recognition of our patterns and enable us to make healthier choices in our relationships!
Nothing is ideal and we were blessed with mature examples of those who are happily married for many years.