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Christopher Halliwell

Secondary Education Physics, Mississippi State University

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What is the advantage of evolving the ability to cry?

Is it simply a result of evolving the ability for complex emotions?


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    Mar 16 2013: I've found that when i'm truly affected by a sad event in my life, as in the passing of a child or a loved one I freeze, my body becomes like stone, a statue with water flowing down it's cheeks. No emotion, just a torrent of silent unbroken tears and i think a lot of men cry this way. In those moments women always want to grab me and sob that gut wrenching cry that can grip a person when all i want to do is walk away but can't move, it's like stone.
    • Mar 16 2013: I have had similar reactions to the passing of friends - silent, lack of emotion. For me, however, the tears didn't seem to come until later at some random moment of reflection.
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        Mar 16 2013: It's a cultural thing for me and my people to gather together for a few days and live with the loved one that is gone. It' helps the children come to terms with what happens and during this period is when a lot of emotion comes to the surface as well as the stories and the jokes of the good times. We joke a lot and recant the naughty times. Most come away from it with something they never knew about the person, by the time it's finished you're so worn out that all you want to do is sleep and begin again.
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          Mar 16 2013: Hello Ken:>)
          Do you think/feel that the whole process of gathering, coming together, sharing jokes and stories sets the stage for people to be genuinely vulnerable to each other, which facilitates coming away from the event with something you may not have known about the other person? Do you think/feel that it may create a "safe" place to share the deepest feelings?

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