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How can we help to prevent bullying?

As a society that revels in TV series such as Honey Boo Boo, Jersey Shore and other "Reality" TV shows, how are we supposed to stop bullying within schools?

If we preach what to do or what not to do when confronted by bullying behaviors, but never follow through with consequences, how can we expect our students to continue to have faith in the faculty's true want to get rid of bullying.

How can we expect our children to stop bullying if we, as grown ups, are watching these shows.... making fun of the people on them, judging them, calling them names?

How can we change the structure of learning to help increase education, not only in the academic sense, but also in the sense of what it means to be a human being?


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  • Mar 20 2013: We know that the light of the sun is not selective on who it shines on, a part of the connection that shows this would be a very single step in that direction. If in kindergarden through 3rd grade wouldn't it be more impactful to have a dedicated hour to teaching the single most important thing about connection in this way. Stories that spoke about how we are not to be disconnected based on differences that we may have. This could range from size, speech, race, etc. You see when it comes down to it, the human heart is the one in unison we have. Not speaking about it and allowing a potential thought process to harms others seems to be ok with how far we have come with all the avenues of life we all encounter. What violence is out there is seen whether we try to control it or not, we give no explanation. Any child feels something inside only to individualize during times of experiencing what this world offers during that moment.

    A child will always show you the greater intelligence in you that you already possess. They know they are full of life and not trapped inside of mind dominance yet early on. A child is acquiring content in the mind to experience the world for they are told to. How connected the child, depends on the circumstances they are faced with. It will matter not, bully or bullied doing this very thing gives connection instead of disconnection where none is present currently.

    It won't need religion or spirituality to help guide them on the search for wholeness yet it will connect them to show that no matter who they are, they are not alone and not disconnected from anyone else, never to invoke violent or hurtful behavior. If we never create a thought pattern early in this existence, aren't we still waiting for a parental unit to give this by design. Some parents will and have never experience this because they were bullied, or the bully themselves. Making this cycle creates this love we miss and the experience every child should have.

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