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How can we help to prevent bullying?

As a society that revels in TV series such as Honey Boo Boo, Jersey Shore and other "Reality" TV shows, how are we supposed to stop bullying within schools?

If we preach what to do or what not to do when confronted by bullying behaviors, but never follow through with consequences, how can we expect our students to continue to have faith in the faculty's true want to get rid of bullying.

How can we expect our children to stop bullying if we, as grown ups, are watching these shows.... making fun of the people on them, judging them, calling them names?

How can we change the structure of learning to help increase education, not only in the academic sense, but also in the sense of what it means to be a human being?


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  • Mar 20 2013: first we need our teachers to not be bullys!! my son used to attend parkway high in bossier la and one of his male teachers decided to mock my sons stutter in front of whole class. had a student done this he would have been reprimanded and i talk to assist principal then counselor then principal then school board with several calls to each and they told me they would have teacher apologize in counselors office in private well the next day my son comes home and is upset and when i finally coax it out of him he said teacher apologized in front of whole class which in turn brought attention to sons stutter again in front of peers. i cant understand how any teacher could not understand what this does to a teen in highschool. especially when parkway had just in the last two yrs had a wonderful young girl commit suicide due to bullying at school
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      Mar 20 2013: Hi Stephanie,
      So sorry about that experience. I also cannot imagine why people don't understand how bullying impacts people....especially young people. We have folks right here in this discussion who say it's been going on forever....can't change it.....what's the problem....etc. etc. etc.!

      It's a HORRIBLE experience for a child! My son was bullied, and it often happened at school, in the locker room and on the bus going and coming from athletic events. One day he came home with a beaten up face, and you could see on his face, the cleat marks from a soccar shoe! As a young adult, he had reconstructive surgery to repair damage done by bullying. When I talked with the athletic director, he simply laughed and said..."boys will be boys", and for him, that was the end of the discussion. It has been many, many years since my son was in school, and it appears that things have not significantly changed.
    • Mar 20 2013: My mother made my dad leave, because his loud and abusive voice started making me stutter and kept making it worse. Once he left, it took my mom about a month to get me to stop stuttering.
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        Mar 20 2013: I am sorry Jim. The ramifications of abuse/bullying are very far reaching, and impact way too many people's lives.
        • Mar 20 2013: Then why do you even bother speaking to this subject?
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        Mar 20 2013: Jim,
        I have been speaking on this subject for many years, and the reason I began addressing it, is because I experienced abuse and bullying as a child by my father. As a child, I felt that it was not ok to treat other human beings in a way that disempowered them. As an adult, I had the opportunity to volunteer in a woman/childrens shelter, family center, volunteered with the dept. of corrections, facilitating and co-facilitating several programs, guest lectured at the univ. on the topic of violence and abuse, and facilitated discussion groups. In between times, I studied and researched human behavior, with focus on violence and abuse.

        Awareness is the first step in changing anything, so that is why I "bother speaking to this subject". I sincerely hope I can contribute to awareness. Thanks for asking:>)
        • Mar 20 2013: To help others is to help to heal oneself as surely you must have experienced, depending on the level of trauma by any. Glad to hear you are helping others.
          As you learned, everything is dependent on those that supposedly lead us.

          Have a wonderful day Colleen!
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        Mar 20 2013: Yes Jim....absolutely! To contribute positively to the journey of others, helps us learn, grow and heal, thereby positively contributing to our own journey and life experience. Of course the alternative is true as well. If one is a bully, s/he is simply showing us what is in his/her heart.
        Thank you so much for your kind words....it is very much appreciated.

        You have a wonderful day too my friend.....thanks:>)

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