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Michael Rose

Child, Adolescent & Family Therapist, Youth in Need

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How can we help to prevent bullying?

As a society that revels in TV series such as Honey Boo Boo, Jersey Shore and other "Reality" TV shows, how are we supposed to stop bullying within schools?

If we preach what to do or what not to do when confronted by bullying behaviors, but never follow through with consequences, how can we expect our students to continue to have faith in the faculty's true want to get rid of bullying.

How can we expect our children to stop bullying if we, as grown ups, are watching these shows.... making fun of the people on them, judging them, calling them names?

How can we change the structure of learning to help increase education, not only in the academic sense, but also in the sense of what it means to be a human being?

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      Mar 17 2013: Hi Aja,
      The way your comment is written, I'm not sure if you are serious or not, and I will respond thinking that you may be serious. I'm sure you'll let me know if that is not true.....thanks:>)

      One reason it seems to be gaining in strength is cyberbullying. Bullying has been going on in many forms throughout history. Used to be if a kid was bullied at home, s/he might be able to escape to school.....if bullied at school, home may have provided safety...etc. With cyberbullying, it is EVERYWHERE, and a kid may feel like s/he cannot escape at all. That seems to be one factor that is causing bullying to be more noticed, and more of a challenge....what do you think about that?

      I agree with you that emotional arguments are often counter-productive when problem-solving. Can you think of any other way to speak about the fact that a lot of kids are ending their lives because of bullying? I certainly am open to your suggestions:>)
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          Mar 18 2013: Hi again Aja,
          Yes the information you provide means a LOT! Sounds even worse than the statistics I've seen. I don't know how the APA can say that the publics perceived cases are over-stated. In my humble perception, even ONE kid being bullied is too many.
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          Mar 18 2013: I agree Aja, that vulnerable youth are susceptible to the influence of reports of suicides attributed to bullying in the media. If there were no suicides, they would not have anything to report. It is also through the media that we learn about the extent of this practice.

          In my humble perception, the "correct path" is education, and discouraging the bullying. I would not catagorize a discussion of a well known challenge in our world as a "feeding frenzy". It appears that you entered this conversation simply to criticize those of us who genuinely want to contribute to changing bullying behaviors.
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          Mar 18 2013: Aja,
          "Resist thinking with your feelings...." Are you kidding me??? That is terrible advise! Thinking and feeling work really well together:>)

          Schools are a social experience as well as an educational experience...a PERFECT place (as well as lots of other places) to contribute to social changes.

          Schools are one place where bullying happens, and schools can be one place where bullying is discouraged. You're right...schools are located in every community and willing to take on new issues. What better place to discourage bullying behaviors....good point Aja!
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          Mar 18 2013: Aja,
          I am aware of the edits to your comment after I posted a reply to you.

          You know, it may be coincidence, but there was a "troll-type" person on TED once, who had the same name and face as yours.....amazing isn't it???
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          Mar 18 2013: Aja, I think your point is valid, and the research you report from Stanford is also valid, that schools can be part of solving a variety of problems but are often not up to the task of being the only vehicle for creating change.
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          Mar 18 2013: No shame on my part Aja. I've been following your contradictory conversation with respect...same as I did before:>)

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