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How can we help to prevent bullying?

As a society that revels in TV series such as Honey Boo Boo, Jersey Shore and other "Reality" TV shows, how are we supposed to stop bullying within schools?

If we preach what to do or what not to do when confronted by bullying behaviors, but never follow through with consequences, how can we expect our students to continue to have faith in the faculty's true want to get rid of bullying.

How can we expect our children to stop bullying if we, as grown ups, are watching these shows.... making fun of the people on them, judging them, calling them names?

How can we change the structure of learning to help increase education, not only in the academic sense, but also in the sense of what it means to be a human being?


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  • Mar 17 2013: Encouragemeng means we expect such situation, while my point is not to expect but to ignore them, that is neither encouragement nor ban. the bully bullies not only because they can perceive those who are less strong in themselves but becsuse those who are bullied are not strong enough. then, how to ptomote them? pressure works. Giving them a push, they have no choice but to strengthen themselves, which accounts for my suggstion to let it happen.

    in additon, about your another point that that cycle is not apropriate, i have some different views. we human get evolved through competition. without fierce fight, we can not evolve into what we are now. to make sure our progress, we need competiton and selection. from this perspective, bullying is not so unbearable as we usually think.
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      • Mar 17 2013: Don,

        I cannot agree with your statement. --
        "Most bullies, if not discovered as children, go on to bigger crime as adults."
        It is just a tat overdone.

        Bully's come in many types and degrees, not necessarily criminal bullying.
        Zeng's comment about evolution, something no one can control,
        or understand fully. tend to be an over-reaction --
        His comment,
        ".. without fierce fight, we can not evolve into what we are now.
        to make sure our progress, we need competition and selection."

        To discuss values placed on competition and selection is better
        left undone as this topic is about bullying.

        I hesitate to do this, but --- always a but...
        There is an island in the Pacific Ocean where, when discovered
        first by Europeans, was found to have a tribe of natives that had
        no word in their language for "want". Interesting?
        A non-competitive tribe, they quickly died out, due to diseases
        brought to them by the Europeans.

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