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How can we help to prevent bullying?

As a society that revels in TV series such as Honey Boo Boo, Jersey Shore and other "Reality" TV shows, how are we supposed to stop bullying within schools?

If we preach what to do or what not to do when confronted by bullying behaviors, but never follow through with consequences, how can we expect our students to continue to have faith in the faculty's true want to get rid of bullying.

How can we expect our children to stop bullying if we, as grown ups, are watching these shows.... making fun of the people on them, judging them, calling them names?

How can we change the structure of learning to help increase education, not only in the academic sense, but also in the sense of what it means to be a human being?


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    Mar 15 2013: I had the pleasure to meet and befriend many American people. And I could clearly see what you mean. I am not saying that my culture is "better", because to each there are the good aspects and the bad ones. In fact the American culture has a lot of great aspects. But when it comes to acceptance and embracing of the other, it fails dramatically.

    Everyone is expected to be perfect according to unrealistic standards. And from my little experience I could see that those who successfully escape this illogical point of view, and who become liberated, join the minority. There is always a pressure on them to become "normal". The issue is has anyone became normal yet?

    I noticed also how the words "weird", "awkward"... etc. are used heavily too in the American culture. In mine we never use it. But due to the openness and influence of other cultures it is becoming more popular here. I noticed how when I started using those terms my tolerance for the situations decreased. Any situation that doesn't go with my poor opinion will become "weird", and this has distracted me from looking into the nature of this situation and analyze it with my mind rather my... hmmm I don't know what it is called, first impression of it?

    I am a believer in the goodness of humans. I don't think that people came up with these judgments to make others lives harder. In fact people who judge others, judge their OWN SELVES. We live under the pressure of avoiding judgement. Low self-confidence, anxiety, dissatisfaction...etc. are things I have experienced myself when I knew that I don't fit the standards. I think this even cause more judgment, as an outlet to these strains.

    I think what made this type of thinking a mainstream are the companies that want to give people a reason to buy things they don't need. To fulfill those needs materialistically. To sell movies, and to make reality shows. To make people eat more and sell them things to reduce their weight. To make us always in need.
    • Mar 15 2013: I appreciate the response... In your words, you have answered the question. You discussed the point of judging others and the dissatisfaction we feel in ourselves and how we often take these out on others. I was (and still am) called "weird." I think people when they say that which I'm sure only solidifies their thought even more. Thank you for your response.
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        Mar 15 2013: Oh yes, I agree with you. Your the most welcome, you got a great question out there!
        And i want to invite you to explore other cultures, not mine or any other in particular, just other places where they don't have terms as weird and where you are highly valued just for being a human.

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