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Frank Booth

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Ex-cons oppions about rehabilitation vs just doing time. Working our way back into society and accepting society is slow.

I'm an ex con, did a lot of jail time in NY and know from the inside what it's like to carry the "brand" around the rest of my life. Know the problems of doing time and what it's like to try to live with the stigma of my past life, for the rest of my days. I know the daily adversity of the "system" even after one has paid his price of jail time, there is an ongoing price that will be paid the rest of my life. It's been over 30 years and I still, to this day pay.


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      Mar 9 2013: Hello Carolyn,

      JUST US. Funny, but, it almost makes a important point. Seperate but equal. I'd suggest that is part of the problem. Most of my life I've seen myself as seperate, instead of "part of". To want to make oneself part of the solution, I know will take people into a hell that many good people face every single day, The unsong heroes that work in the system on every level. Trying with dedication and love to work to help people. The present tools and guidelines in place to help others I'd suggest is to the most part, isn't working, look no futher then how many people we're housing in mental institutions, prisons, and treatment centers.

      Before I go any futher, let me state, that I know nothing. That's a blessing, it forces me to intuitiveness rather then history or a preconcieved ideas, for open minded balanced approach to this.

      I'm getting the feeling that we think there are quick answers to these problems, if that was the case, this conversation wouldn't be happening. Family's shattered in some way? WOW, some way?

      My evaluation of TED and the people I've listened to so far, has shown me that their are so, so many Good honest dedicated people who are trying to chage the world for a better hamanity. And I probubly not worthy to even walk in their shadow. But, there are a few things that I can offer, my exsperiance, "from living in the shattered family", the hopeless look on the faces of the people in the system, when they looked at me, because they "knew" how it always turns out. They "knew" but, I didn't. And the tools they had at their disposal didn't work and they knew that also.

      I don't know what the word presentient means. Looked it up, but, still didn't get it. I'm slow...smile. That being said, do I know something that is helpful? To be honest, I don't know what I know "yet". I'm thinking this has to be a journey, not a destination. I'm running out of space, so I'll continue this with my suggestions in a new reply.
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      Mar 9 2013: OK, here goes, let me start off with a quote: The British politician Tony Benn put it well when he said, "It's the same each time with progress. First they ignore you, then they say you're mad, then dangerous, then there's a pause and then you can't find anyone who disagrees with you."

      I've had some exsperiance with the first 3 things, with the forth, only once or twice. More about that at some other time. I hope the point is understood.

      The first thing I would suggest is that we lock a committee of the best minds, that are willing, from various fields into a hotel for a weekend and present a package of well thought out alternitives to our present efforts. Alternitives such as, a team with real resources be assigned to each and every family and come to a consencious, first of all what are the problems facing this family, and then what individual problems each family member has. The team must never, never forget that the patient, or family "has" be be part of the solution. Try and see through their eyes, not the professionals, what they think they need to help themselves.

      Second thing I would address, is to ask the questions of the professionals, what resources are availible, what resources we can we add, and how we can we make the "powers" to be, see it's to their advantage, and societies advantage, to try a differant approach to this cancerous problem we have of shattered families and lives. More important then the questions possed, what do they see as the downfall of such proposals.

      Third thing is, a gathering of the exchange of information from the various fields, for a well thought out plan of attack, to aggressively handle the adversities these families face on a daily basis. Medical, Phychological, and moral attention would have to be part of the process. Education and opportunity would "have to" be part of the process, to what I'll term "a way out of the treadmill of repitition".

      I'll close shortly..
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      Mar 9 2013: A pilot program can be started to test these solutions on a small scale at first.

      The above are just a begininning of ideas. I need help, I lack education on many, if not all of the above. But, I won't let that stop my effort.

      Thank You, and please let me know what you think about these ideas, or how you think about the problem and it's solution.

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