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Do we really care for others or just think we do?

We talk a lot about how bad the world is, what we could do to improve it. Sometimes we give money to various charitable campaigns or even take part in a project, but often ignore the sadness, loneliness or illness of our closest neighbors. How much good can be done just to give a bit of friendly conversation to someone? How many times have we dodged a homeless man on the street as we come to give money to charity? Do we act and we are engaged? or we deceive ourselves to feel good?

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    Mar 6 2013: Some do some don't. It depends on how much responsibility a person is willing to take.
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      Mar 6 2013: That is a good point, how much responsability a person is willing to take.. Speaking about they that do, sometimes we think and believe that we have taken a lot of responsibility. E.g. we give money to charity (good thing), we are happy and feel good (good thing) ... but that's all. We are not worried how is invested that money, we are not worried if there are another ways to help, are we really worried ...?
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        Mar 6 2013: How about guys who work in the peace corp, fight in wars to defend their countries, Drs without borders, they risk everything they have or ever will have to better mankind...


        Of course there is the opposite as well as with politics, they are traitors to mankind
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          Mar 6 2013: ... another interesting and diferent point... guys that fight in wars, is a very nice topic to treat apart. I must do a lot of questions to myself...

          ... Usually they are forced to fight and as war rots everything they end commiting atrocities, perhaps the soldiers think that they are fighting for a better world or for a good cause and they feel like that , but they that give them orders have other plans and use wars and soldiers to their bussiness...
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        Mar 8 2013: Jesus, we have seen studies done where they have explained that usually only .25 out of every $1 donated to charities gets to the individuals who need the help. The other .75 goes to those who work for the charity and for the infrastructure of same.

        I think that humans have the capability to really care for others. And even though we personally cannot care for everyone......we can reach out to those around us, don't you think? Many of my neighbors care for each other. I have lived in three countries and have seen this caring attitude in all the neighborhoods I have lived in. What about in your town/city?
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          Mar 8 2013: I have the feeling that we aid in general but only when does not involve an effort. E.g. when there is a a campaing to raise money to charity or difirent projects above all in third world many people donate a lot of money... is necessary and good think, but when there are campaings to donate blood, bone marrow donation, handicapped and elderly care, promoting activities for children etc, all matters involving time, effort and a little bit of dedication, curiosly people disappear or present different excuses.
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        Mar 8 2013: What you state is true. However, there are still people who do give of their time to volunteer.

        Just not in the numbers that you might want.

        It is disappointing to ask for volunteers for a project and not have someone show up. But how do you change people?

        I think many in society have become accustomed to giving money.....it is a HABIT....they give to churches, to the local firefighters who stand in corners with their boots, to the humane society (animals), to the united way, pretty much to just about anyone who asks for it.........so when they are asked to give of themselves.....their time and effort, they don't do it, because they have already given what "everybody else" has given. And in their mind, that is quite enough.

        If there is an organization that needs your time and effort, then by all means get involved.

        You can only control yourself Jesus, you cannot control others........maybe your good example will help others to change. Don't you think? :)
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          Mar 8 2013: I do not intend to control anyone, only know a little bit about people and mainly think aboutIf i don't help others when I need help I can not receve it as I have not invested in it...
          I agree, trying to give a good example may be contagious, especially when we act in the sight of children we can educate them in this way.
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        Mar 8 2013: The expression I used to "control" in it's context it means that regardless of what we try to explain or show to another human, they will act according to their free will. I was not implying that you intended to control....I'm sorry if you took it that way, it was not my intention.

        Many times when we show a caring attitude to another person, that person might not necessarily care about us when we need them.

        Many times we give to some people, but end up receiving what we need from a totally different group or individual........I don't know if you understand this?
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          Mar 8 2013: You have explained it well about "control" word, I was trying to extend the comment because it is an interest point.

          I mean, more good actions sow, get better harvest (moreless explained)

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