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If you have a talent or ability, is it wrong to not use it?

I have a many skills and talents. Some were innate, and some were gained through painful effort. I do not have a desire for money or fame. I'm content playing my music in the comfort of my home, or writing poetry and fiction for myself. Because of this I find myself repeatedly having conversations with my friends concerning my "need" to do something with it. They tell me "it's a shame" to keep my talents to myself. Is it? And if I gave up playing music, for example, why would that be considered as some sort of crime? If you have a talent, should you feel obligated to share it with the world?

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    Mar 5 2013: Tony Bones,
    Why do you feel "obligated" to allow your friends to determine how you will, or will not, use your talents? It is good to listen to feedback from friends. However, if you "find" yourself "repeatedly having conversations" in which your friends are trying to convince you of something ("it's a crime?.....a "shame"? to do what you choose to do?), then you are giving your power of choice to your friends. Why do you want to do that?
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      Mar 5 2013: Thank you for your encouragement. The thing is that I was only using myself as an example. I'm in no danger of letting anyone decide how I live my life. Even if others weren't goading me to get noticed, there would still remain an inner moral dilemma I believe most people who are skilled at something face. That was the intended subject of this debate. Maybe I wasn't that clear. I apologize for the confusion. Thank you again for the sound advice. I do appreciate it even if I din't need it :)
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        Mar 5 2013: Tony Bones,
        I have skills and talents, as many people do, and do not face an "inner moral dilemma" regarding how, why, or when to use those skills and talents. I'm curious to know where you get the information that says..".there would still remain an inner moral dilemma I believe most people who are skilled at something face". Is that your own feeling? Idea? Projection?

        As a former professional actor, singer, dancer, I was surrounded by creative, skilled, talented people for years. Although we talked about a lot of things, I never heard anyone say they were experiencing a "moral dilemma". Perhaps you could help me understand more about that concept?
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          Mar 19 2013: I'm not a big fan of attention. I'm pretty anti-social and my messages are constantly misinterpreted. It is definitely a very personal crisis of "to do or not to do." I would like to make people happy, but only if they leave me alone afterward. I know I have a poor attitude, and I'm a cynic, and fairly misanthropic at times, but people have never been good to me. I don't want them around any more than necessary.
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        Mar 19 2013: Tony,
        I don't think/feel it to be a "poor attitude". I think it's more important to do what you love doing, how YOU want to do it, rather than follow the expectations of other people. There are performers who keep a very low profile when they are not performing, and if that is what you choose to do, it's ok.

        I'm sorry people have never been good to you.......never? As an adult, we have the ability to choose who we want to spend time with....how, why, when and where. It's really not possible to "make people happy". We can contribute to other people's happiness, and being happy.....or not.....is the choice of the individual.
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          Mar 20 2013: Wish there were more people like you around.
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        Mar 25 2013: Tony! That is SO SWEET....thank you:>)

        I am counting on the ripple effect, or the butterfly effect:>)

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