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Tony Bones

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If you have a talent or ability, is it wrong to not use it?

I have a many skills and talents. Some were innate, and some were gained through painful effort. I do not have a desire for money or fame. I'm content playing my music in the comfort of my home, or writing poetry and fiction for myself. Because of this I find myself repeatedly having conversations with my friends concerning my "need" to do something with it. They tell me "it's a shame" to keep my talents to myself. Is it? And if I gave up playing music, for example, why would that be considered as some sort of crime? If you have a talent, should you feel obligated to share it with the world?


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  • Mar 19 2013: If any thing your just being selfish with it which is fine , but i say this . ...... as good as it feels to throw down on your axe, whatever it may be,it feels even better to do it with one or more people that u vibe wit. Its very synergistic. And to do that in front of a viewer who is getting energised off of your playing is a serious high. And it always feels good to inspire people .well.that's a lot of benefit from a small change and I'm not even talking about career musician type stuff. You could be jamming in the park.
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      Mar 19 2013: That's sort of where I'm at now. I use my talents to entertain my friends and help out people I like. Not too long ago I played 3 hours of jazz for a live model sketching event my friend threw. It was film noir style. The audience was ecstatic and I kept getting compliments for weeks. People came up to me saying they wanted to hire me to play their dinner parties and other events. It was fun, but I was glad when the compliments tapered off and I could enjoy my peaceful anonymity.
      • Mar 19 2013: One other thing i hate hearing myself it's when somebody says I'm wasting many talent. What does that really even mean? I know what there trying to say but just because I'm not where you think i should be does not mean I'm wasting many skills. I don't even think they are somethin that could go to waste. Like many dad says"if i had a positive effect on just line person in the world then my job is done" . You know someone with that frame of mind isn't gonna settle with one person but his point is obvious

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