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What is it to be Fearless ?

The Idea of living life at the whim of other people seems to me to be a very scary proposition. Therefore through my understanding of both this video and my personal experience ,the idea of being fearless to ask for help seems to be a necessary part of life.


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  • Mar 6 2013: I'm sorry but this word has been bandied about so much lately it has begun to lose meaning...

    True fearlessness, a complete absence of fear, would be a crippling, if extremely short lived, aberration. The first traffic intersection or junkyard dog would sort things out pretty quickly. Fear is an ingrained response we have KEPT in our make-up because it has been invaluable time and again, thus becoming integral through our own evolution. Despite the fact that that fight-or-flight response can now manifest itself as stress, we have not lost it as it STILL serves us in good stead on a daily basis. Take the short-cut home? Throught THAT neighborhood? It is so naturally ingrained that the myriad catastrophes that would have otherwise befallen you remain countless because they never happened, yet you all seem so ready to devolve away from this tool of instinctual survival...

    Much as I loved Amanda Effin' Palmer's talk (which was truly about embarrasment rather than fear, and no, I don't think they ARE the same), Karen's talk was much more in line with my thinking. Know it, own it, understand it, work through it, but lose it?

    No way.

    True fearlessness is a form of stupidity. The human brain does not finish forming until 25 in women, 28 in men (that's right ladies, we ARE more immature and a bit dumber). The last part to gel up? Risk/reward analysis. Most humans are not good at it to begin with, but when a bunch of twenty-somethings (or younger) are telling you "go ahead, it's fine, what could happen?" it is good to have possession of this fact, and be afraid... be very afraid...

    I do some public speaking and like Vickie have gone through periods of doubt and increased fear, but I can own that now, work it, turn it and make my talks better through that channeled energy. Like Tim, I now like my previous fear so much I have become a radio host; a LOOOONG way from cowering off-stage before talking to a handful of folks. Own it, use it, but don't lose it...
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      Mar 16 2013: I believe you're wrong.. I have come to achieve true fearlessness.
      Having it inhibits action. Fear delays response. Without fear you can make decisions based on logic and personal well being. Without fear I have no embarrassment and have confidence and better attention.
      You say don't lose fear? Fear is the enemy to willpower. Think, if you started public speaking without fear in the first place, you wouldn't have to overcome it, would you?
      If you have a mouse in your house, fear could stop you from getting it out. If you have a snake in your house and you don't have fear, you think logically and call an exterminator without all of the extra.
      What is the reason for fear. Why do we need? If I know I could possibly die today, and soon will die, and that there are way worse going on in the world than the things that are happening to me, then what is the reason for fear?
      • Mar 19 2013: If I might ask Trey, how old are you? I'm betting 28 or younger... ;)

        You are correct that I started my speaking career with a good deal of trepidation, often literally sick to my stomach with fear. I didn't let it paralyze me, i rationalized what was the worst that could happen? and I did it. The next time was a little easier, etc. etc...

        I STILL have the vestiges of that fear EVERY time I speak or do the radio show. Like that tail we don't use anymore, or that thumb left over in bblue whales. But not really. Those two examples are now useless, but I make my fear serve me now. What was nervous energy that was once channeled toward projectile vomitting and stammering, is still nervous energy, now channeled toward energetic presentation and the focus that fight-or-flight can give you...

        I lived with a snake in my house once for years; more importantly for the point, so did my wife. Not a little thing; an Eastern Black Racer all of six feet. It was an old farmhouse with a cobbled foundation that had seen better decades, and anything and everything could get in. Becky fears snakes in a BIG way, but I convinced her he was doing more good than bad. She got to a point where she would sit on our back porch with the morning coffee with our "pet", shivering with fear, but getting to know our neighbor so chance encounters would not stop her heart. For years this went on.

        Then the handy man (we were renting the house) came out of the basement one day crowing, "look what I killed!" I knew before I rounded the corner who it was, and the handyman was stunned that I showered him with a lecture rather than praise. Sure enough, within a month, that old famhouse was literally overrun with rodents, from an army of field mice to some actual rats. We moved the next month...

        Courage is not a lack of fear; courage is fearing and still doing. My wife is a brave soul, who happens to be scared of snakes, but that does not define her. She is more than her fears, but less without them..
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          Mar 30 2013: I've been busy, buy I understand you.

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