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Attitudes; share some worthy ideas of how we can change them?

We have healthy, unhealthy and harmful attitudes which are generally learnt from our parents/family, society, media, education, etc.

Good to know our healthy ones such as kindness, care, sharing, gratitude, patience, focus, etc so that we can build on these.

Also very useful to know our unhealthy ones and work towards improving and changing them.

Our harmful ones usually arise when we dwell on our unhealthy ones and allow them to consume us.  Eventually this will lead to acting them out in ways that harms ourself and others.

In another conversation someone spoke of a man who slapped and racially abused a toddler!  Some thought it unfair that this action - charges have been laid - should impacted on the mans employment.  His employer sacked him.

A good illustration of how we can eventually act out our prejudices, often suppressed so that once they surface it can be like a volcanic eruption.  We've all had this experience.

Am looking for a brainstorm about ideas of how you or others have changed your unhealthy or harmful attitudes?  

Any links would be helpful also?  Thanks for contributing.

Topics: Inner health attitudes behaviour change
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    Dorian Knus

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    Mar 6 2013: It is all about motivation.
    A motive. a purpose, will start the change. Not the plain willing to change.
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      Kate Blake 50+

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      Mar 6 2013: Hi Dorian, thanks for joining us.

      Can you share what motivation or purpose helps you to change an attitude? Am asking for practical examples so that others can learn from our experiences, thanks.

      Just read your profile, Antarctica, are you for real?
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        Dorian Knus

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        Mar 6 2013: I needed to start my life again from scratch and I was young.
        I've could have done what was expected from me or do what I really wanted and felt.

        I did what I really wanted. Wasn't easy nor very profitable but I was happy.
        No have no regrets today.

        Yep, Antartica. Don't you ever put your real name nor info online. (May be Linkedin is OK)
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          Kate Blake 50+

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          Mar 6 2013: I also did what I preferred rather than was expected and no regrets - shame more people aren't bold enough to live their life how they prefer!

          Once worked with a very interesting chap who did 5 seasons down there, fascinating place but I'm allergic to the cold ... Good luck with it all.

    • William Colony

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      Mar 8 2013: I must disagree. Simply a purpose or motive will not make you change. But your shear will, will. There are many hidden dispositions (unconsciously acted behaviors) working in the background. Even if you have a motive or an imagined or real purpose, without the willingness to break down your limits (unconsciously acted behaviors) you will not be able to change. For instance, many people have self-defeating behaviors. They can’t get ahead although they do have great ideas as motivations and purpose, but instead they keep falling back to their old “bad” habits. Without the willingness to understand yourself and the willingness to follow through, neither purpose nor motivation alone will get you to the desired outcome.

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