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What do you fear and why do you have that fear?

I recently thought about fears and why that question has a such a deep meaning to it and why many of us are may be curious to learn other people's fears. I came to realize that out fears express our values. They express the things we cherish and are afraid of losing or never receiving.

So for example, some people are scared of a certain animal or physical thing, such as heights or water, etc.. That may be because they value their life and as a human, instinctually they would stay away and fear those sort of things to prevent from losing their life.
On the other hand, some people may have other fears such as losing family members or never acheiving their dreams. In this case, these people may value their family or their dreams, but going deeper they may also value what those things mean to me, such as love and passion.

So I'm just curious, what do you fear and why do you think you have that fear?

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    Gail . 50+

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    Feb 28 2013: Fear is a choice. It may take courage and effort to confront it, but you choose whether or not to walk through it - in order to discover its illusory quality.

    We live in a fear-based culture. (That means that our culture reacts to situations out of fear-inspired stimulus). But life on the other side of fear is proactive, not reactive. It acknowledges power and safety rather than powerlessness and vulnerability. Life on the other side of fear is a life of freedom such as those who still honor fear cannot know.

    When I have a fear, I walk toward it and then through it.

    It's hard for me to reconcile myself with my culture that loves and honors fear as it does. Where your love is, there is your god, thus if you honor (love) your fears, fear becomes your god, and what a cruel taskmaster fear is.
    • Feb 28 2013: Oh I complete agree that it is better to walk toward and through our fears. It's great that you said that.
      I also think we have to acknowledge our fears and figure out what they are in order to walk through them and feel accomplished once we overcome it.
      And I agree that many people now let their fear define them and take control of certain aspects of their life.
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    • Feb 28 2013: I've thought about it, and I realized I have a fear of heights but it has never stopped me from going on rollercoasters, ziplining or wanting to skydive. Hahaha, it scares me to my core at first but when it's done I have this pounding energy rushing through my body.

      I also have this fear of losing the ones I love and hold dear to my heart. It's a fear that makes me appreciate them even more.
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    Feb 28 2013: When I was younger, I thought maybe my fear reactions had been turned off, as I was always peculiarly fearness about physical danger to myself. And I have always stuck my neck out to put forward or defend unpopular ideas or to defend the weak from the powerful.

    When my children were babies, I was attentive to physical risk, as I feared leaving them at a time when they might not have the maturity to realize it was not my choice.

    I have always feared rattlesnakes, though.
  • Mar 9 2013: we got nothing to fear then fear itself.

    F.E.A.R = False Evidence Appearing Real

    after think it is our mind that makes as to think what we fear.

    "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
    Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
    It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
    We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant,
    gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
    Actually, who are you not to be?
    You are a child of God.
    Your playing small does not serve the world.
    There is nothing enlightened about shrinking
    so that other people won't feel insecure around you.
    We are all meant to shine, as children do.
    We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
    It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone.
    And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously
    give other people permission to do the same.
    As we are liberated from our own fear,
    our presence automatically liberates others."

    A Return To Love - Marianne Williamson

    I strongly believe that if one does a thing a day that frightened them most they will eventually learn how to overcome fears.