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Tarun Mahani

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What should one do , if situations take control of a person's life , as in he wants to do good but bad happens everytime .

You have mixed feelings about your worries. On one hand, your worries are bothering you - you can't sleep, and you can't get these pessimistic thoughts out of your head. But there is a way that these worries make sense to you. For example, you think:

Maybe I'll find a solution.
I don't want to overlook anything.
If I keep thinking a little longer, maybe I'll figure it out.
I don't want to be surprised.
I want to be responsible.

You have a hard time giving up on your worries because, in a sense, your worries have been working for you.


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  • Feb 28 2013: Tarun.
    Today I believe it is important to remember that the game of life is rigged against all of us.
    So, when some bad or negative things happen, it isn't always an individual's fault.
    If people are honest, especially with what is going on in the world currently, it is easy to see just how true that is.
    In Amerika for example, those who will tell me anything at all, only reveal that there are many less avenues of ideas, and things to do, to "save themselves or their situation". In India I do not know the conditions.
    I haven't found talking to people of any help. They don't listen, they don't understand and they don't even try. They are judgmental, uncaring and scared to death along with being mental robots, artificially intelligent. They only speak with no real beliefs of their own any longer. I have wanted to have someone to talk with all my life and never found anyone, not through prayer, meditation, ads, going out, actively seeking friendships or simply asking someone if they would listen because I really needed it. I do talk here on ted, but there is little effect I get from it because I have learned not to get my spirits up.
    I believe most people do not really trust what it is they say they believe in. If you have one thing, that you trust with abandon, then you are all right. I have one such thing. What does it do for me? Well, since I trust, there is no sense in worrying, for something good will happen. If it doesn't, there is no sense in worrying, because something bad will happen. Am I all right? Yes. I am even though I don't like the situation, and I know this, I can't go back on it.
    I also like to believe in what I know, so that leaves out hope and faith, which are false in my opinion. They simply lead to the ever thinking what to do? and worry. Let go of care. The main definition of care is, "a troubled state of mind."
    If you have that one thing, trust it. If you worry, you don't trust it.
    Belief in a God? If you worry or are afraid, then there's two.

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