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Tarun Mahani

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What should one do , if situations take control of a person's life , as in he wants to do good but bad happens everytime .

You have mixed feelings about your worries. On one hand, your worries are bothering you - you can't sleep, and you can't get these pessimistic thoughts out of your head. But there is a way that these worries make sense to you. For example, you think:

Maybe I'll find a solution.
I don't want to overlook anything.
If I keep thinking a little longer, maybe I'll figure it out.
I don't want to be surprised.
I want to be responsible.

You have a hard time giving up on your worries because, in a sense, your worries have been working for you.


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    Feb 26 2013: Dear Tarun,
    You suggest that "situations take control of a person's life". How can that happen? We are thinking, feeling, intelligent resourceful, insightful humans.....are we not? How can a situation control us......unless.......we allow that to happen?

    How do "worries make sense to you" and how have they "been working for you"? I have not discovered any useful purpose for worry. I do not see a reason to do that to myself.

    Worry: "to subject to persistent or nagging attention or effort; to afflict with mental distress or agitation; anxious; unceasing or difficult effort; struggle; concern or anxiety..."

    Again, I ask the questions...how does worry make sense to you? How is it "working for you"? How is it helpful in any way?
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      Feb 26 2013: Actually my mind set up is different , actually all my worries of loosing something , makes me work even harder , that's how it makes sense .

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