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Who’s had a rough or violent upbringing?
I could wright a book titled Guns Knives Brass Buckles & Soap. The soap bit sounds lame but it’s just as deadly as the rest. Please keep your replies as small as posssible.
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Mathew Naismith 10+
My eldest brother had a knife held to his throat also he was belted that much he stopped breathing & even then he was still belted. I came close to shooting both my parents at the age of 8-9 years of age, one bullet narrowly missing my mother’s head. We had holes in doors & walls because of parental rage. I was suffocating while I had a cake of soap stuffed down my throat & so on it went.
But in saying all this I also understand my parent’s plight while they were growing up as well, abuse just leads to more abuse.
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Fritzie Reisner 100+
That soap thing may have been more common than you might think. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Washing_out_mouth_with_soap
20% of students at one Massachusetts College in 2006 reported that that punishment had been used on them.
Mathew Naismith 10+
Washing out the mouth with soap was just rubbing the soap on the tongue or in the moth no down the throat, I was choking on it because it was in my lungs, I thought I was going to die but what got me was the look on my parent’s face, utterly no remorse but what seemed like enjoyment.
My parents went through simular treatment; they really didn’t know any better especially when they lost it but I stopped that rot with me with a fair bit of effort. Maybe that’s why a turned towards the spiritual who knows so something good came out of it!!!
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Fritzie Reisner 100+
While abuse and other parenting habits often repeat across generations, I think it is probably just as often that a child reacts as you have by rejecting these sorts of punishments for their own kids.
Don Wesley 50+
I can understand the danger. My wife and I had almost a perfect marriage until 40 years had gone by, and I can say I began to learn about rage and the need to kill.
We are talking about murder. I have since spent 4 years my time learning all about it.
We are talking about what is called an evil mind. All of us need to be aware that its there and can remain hidden and rise into conscious suddenly, after many years have gone by. We should know even before marriage and about a family secret. I would still have married her and could have done something to heal her. What do you think about more knowledge before marriage?
Mathew Naismith 10+
Utterly agree Don……..So many people want to bury the past without facing it, it’s a hell of a lot easier in the long run to face it first up than let it fester away.
I didn’t get married until I was forty because I still had issues myself to deal with. I told my wife before we got married all about my family & myself, anyway we were engaged for about eight years so she knew me & my family well enough or so she thought. She spent every day for a week before we got married crying about what my parents & sister where doing to disrupt our lives as much as possible. Just after that I finally turned my back on my parents & sister, if I didn’t do this I most probably would have lost my wife.
This sort of thing can either tear you down or build you up, I chose the latter as anything else is futile.
Sorry to hear that you went through what you did, life‘s not fair at times.
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Kate Blake 50+
Telling your fiancée before marriage and then distancing yourself from the relatives that continued to interfere. They are damaged goods and unless they face their own demons they cannot heal and move on, like you have done.
Don Wesley 50+
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