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Mathew Naismith

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Who’s had a rough or violent upbringing?

I could wright a book titled Guns Knives Brass Buckles & Soap. The soap bit sounds lame but it’s just as deadly as the rest. Please keep your replies as small as posssible.

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    Feb 22 2013: G'day TED Friends

    My eldest brother had a knife held to his throat also he was belted that much he stopped breathing & even then he was still belted. I came close to shooting both my parents at the age of 8-9 years of age, one bullet narrowly missing my mother’s head. We had holes in doors & walls because of parental rage. I was suffocating while I had a cake of soap stuffed down my throat & so on it went.
    But in saying all this I also understand my parent’s plight while they were growing up as well, abuse just leads to more abuse.

    Love
    Mathew
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      Feb 23 2013: I'm glad you came through okay.

      That soap thing may have been more common than you might think. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Washing_out_mouth_with_soap

      20% of students at one Massachusetts College in 2006 reported that that punishment had been used on them.
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        Feb 23 2013: G'day Fritzie

        Washing out the mouth with soap was just rubbing the soap on the tongue or in the moth no down the throat, I was choking on it because it was in my lungs, I thought I was going to die but what got me was the look on my parent’s face, utterly no remorse but what seemed like enjoyment.

        My parents went through simular treatment; they really didn’t know any better especially when they lost it but I stopped that rot with me with a fair bit of effort. Maybe that’s why a turned towards the spiritual who knows so something good came out of it!!!

        Love
        Mathew
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          Feb 23 2013: I think that punishments offered by a parent in a state of anger may go in the kind of direction you describe more often than you may think.

          While abuse and other parenting habits often repeat across generations, I think it is probably just as often that a child reacts as you have by rejecting these sorts of punishments for their own kids.
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        Feb 24 2013: G’day Don

        Utterly agree Don……..So many people want to bury the past without facing it, it’s a hell of a lot easier in the long run to face it first up than let it fester away.

        I didn’t get married until I was forty because I still had issues myself to deal with. I told my wife before we got married all about my family & myself, anyway we were engaged for about eight years so she knew me & my family well enough or so she thought. She spent every day for a week before we got married crying about what my parents & sister where doing to disrupt our lives as much as possible. Just after that I finally turned my back on my parents & sister, if I didn’t do this I most probably would have lost my wife.

        This sort of thing can either tear you down or build you up, I chose the latter as anything else is futile.

        Sorry to hear that you went through what you did, life‘s not fair at times.

        Love
        Mathew

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