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Mathew Naismith

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Who’s had a rough or violent upbringing?

I could wright a book titled Guns Knives Brass Buckles & Soap. The soap bit sounds lame but it’s just as deadly as the rest. Please keep your replies as small as posssible.

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      Feb 23 2013: G'day Kate

      I have a brother & sister who have carried it on but funny enough my eldest brother who copped the worst of it is fine maybe because he became a reborn again Christian which was hard to take when he went into a bible bashing mode but it saved him & his family from further abuse.

      The funny thing is some people think abuse only happens in feral families, we weren’t feral just an everyday so called normal family. It was so funny when people came to visit, my parents changed completely but after the guest left it was back to normal, it’s funny to look back on.
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      Mathew
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          Feb 24 2013: G’day Kate

          Now you’re going to find this funny…..No we didn’t help my brother through this however in saying that we did keep in touch & we spoke about the family a lot but I also did this with my second eldest brother as well, I suppose really he didn’t seem as aggressive with his step daughters but that could be for other reasons as well

          Being brought up on the country I think religious people where just as bad as anyone else they just covered it up better.

          Now for the good bit……Yes my parents are still alive & yes I have tried to reconcile with them but you see I was always the one who brought out the ugly side of our family by trying to talk about it & was accused of causing trouble in the family. They will not face what they have done especially my mother. I did have a chat with my father down the street a while ago as my sister & mother weren’t around, my dad was nearly in tears while talking to me.

          The strangest thing is I would have shot my father without giving it a second thought if he belted my mother even at 9-10 yrs , we did, on occasions, have a good time with them when they were calm.

          Another strange thing is they knew but they didn’t know what they were doing at the same time, they just didn’t want to face what they were doing as this would have put them in the same shoes as there abusive parents. You know the thing is I understand however abuse is abuse & can never be forgotten as it’s hard enough to just give!!!

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          Mathew

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