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What is the most important thing you've learned on your own?

In three sentences, explain something that you've learned without being told by another person -- something you've figured out all by yourself. Here's an example:

"I learned how to paint with water colors by reading a book and searching for YouTube videos. It took me a while, but I figured out some techniques that really work for me. I'm not an expert yet, but I have discovered a real joy in painting."

It can be anything -- a practical skill (like painting) or a knowledge set (like how to use mathematics).

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    Mar 22 2013: And that the truth will not necessarily set you free. Sometimes it may put others in jail.
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    Mar 22 2013: Probably the following:
    That it's ok to criticise concepts, ideas and philosophies, that's it's not ok to criticise people because they have them.

    That getting rid of confirmation bias and being open might get you somewhere.

    That combination of logic, rationality and humanism can help everybody as long as those things are not used to hurt anybody.

    That the best book ever written so far is wikipedia because it keeps changing thanks to collective effort and controll.

    That these are really interesting times.
    Isn't there an old Chinese curse? "May you live in interesting times?" It may be a curse or maybe a blessing when you realise that anything's possible.
  • Mar 22 2013: I think the most important thing to success is a good habbit.A good habbit could make me thing out something in an way of myself and only to be myself,I could do my best to do everything .
  • Mar 22 2013: That you should be careful what you wish for!
  • Mar 22 2013: give a man a fish and he'll eat for a day. teach a man to fish and he'll become dependent on your instruction.

    i learned this a long time ago but wasn't completely aware of it until recently. the best teachers never taught me anything (and especially never told me anything) but rather created situations and set tasks and restrictions where i could not but learn and increase my skills and potential in order to achieve them.
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      Mar 22 2013: "Tell me - and I'll forget
      Show me - and I'll remember
      Let me act - and I'll understand"

      Confucius

      Funny thing being that I actually remembered that quote when being told...
  • Mar 22 2013: Perhaps not a very important bit of information but an invaluable lesson. I think I was in fifth grade or thereabouts (too many years ago) when building a project for my Mom and using a mathematical ratio, found this unique number, 3.14, or so. Had no idea of its significance or name for several years but did come back and use it again and again.
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    Mar 22 2013: that you need to come to your own conclusions.

    that you need to make up your own mind.

    disregard any advice that does not agree with what you are aiming for.
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    Mar 22 2013: You can't have everything.

    If you work hard and make sacrifices, you can earn the chance to have one thing.

    But that one thing can be anything.
  • Mar 22 2013: On 19th Oct 1994, I experienced God and God's love, which made anything of this world unimportant. I learned that
    there is no hell but only Love, which is God's permanent state. Furthermore, it is arrogant of us to think we are
    that important in the whole universe to be able to effect the perfection that is God.
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    Mar 21 2013: genius is the universe downloading its insights, knowledge and know how to one of us, be you a conduit for a Musical expression, good as welling up from within, while on the other hand , let all the disparaging impute synthesize through the music you make and generally being educated from within, answering your own questions when another's were met with resistance while you are going with the flow , albeit in slow motion and consciously

    to fix without putting another on the spot , be charmingly disarming to where no one would think to harm you

    we are all speaking of one and the same universe, and we are all let see it in our own right and we are all hear to live and share our storyes to enrich one another's sense of creation and life's manifest on earth
  • Mar 21 2013: Technically, it is impossible to "learn something on your own". Everything learned is learned from experience with another person, or something that another person wrote, or something made by another person. Figuring something out, like say a cure for migraine, is not so much of "learning" as more discovering that certain binaural tones work with branches of the trigeminal nerve in the brain in order to essentially turn of the nerve branch that emits migraine pain and auras; or to put it simply, that objects work with other objects in order to produce or inhibit an action.
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    Mar 21 2013: How passing down knowledge without any reserve creates gratitude and admiration between teachers and students, masters and pupils. And this reverberates, the most knowledge you pass down or receive.
  • Mar 21 2013: The ability to research on the internet.

    Most of the time I prefer asking the internet over talking to non experts or discussing a topic that actually has a solution. I've wasted so many time discussing a topic with a simple answer that each of us could have found in a matter of seconds on the web.

    That way I learned that the victor of a discussion is not always right.
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    Mar 21 2013: I have learned to Seek first to understand and then be understood.

    I have learned to be patient, it will be okay.

    Miracles happen.
  • Mar 20 2013: Since I was a child my mum encouraged me to be whoever I wanted to be and my father has always said I have to search for my own selfhood.

    Parents usally tell you how to live, but it seems they have left that task to me. That is quite a task!!!

    At the beggining I used to blame them for the mistakes in my life, since they never gave me any advice on how to lead my life.

    I am OK with it now and I actually got to do what I wanted to do and to think what I wanted to think. How did I do it? Thanks to the curiosity that has invaded my mind and the goals that I have set to myself!

    My dad now says: "how dull it would be for you to be like me". The amazing thing is that he is a great person, but he encouraged me to be myself.
  • Mar 20 2013: trust everybody and never trust.....
  • Mar 20 2013: I have learned that teaching strengthen my personality.
  • Mar 20 2013: I learned how to use the web and with in, everything is possibile. For English I still working.... ^_^
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    Mar 20 2013: I have learned how to unlearn and quiet the mind. I have also learned that I am perfect and am in the process of unlearning all the information and reasons given to me of why I am imperfect.
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    Mar 20 2013: That life doesn't turn out as perfect as one idealizes it would in ones youth. Though imperfect, embracing both one's and other's mistakes, misunderstandings and missteps with grace fosters an often surprising and full life. Gratefulness for this full life mixed with a bit of vulnerability toward others invites further opportunities to be surprised and experience more fullness in life.
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    Mar 19 2013: Good question.....
    1. Most of the things we do, say, or believe are culturally programmed into us....they are not original thoughts
    2. The Ego settles too quickly & easily for simplistic explanations.
    3. If we understand a problem, we do not need the solution, the answer will come out of it, for they are not separate.
    (J.K.)

    -Learn from that which has no thing to gain...........nature is a good start
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    Mar 19 2013: I have learned to heal naturally without using any of the drugs we are told to use. It made no sense to heal with a drug when nothing in the drug solves a problem. Those lessons, have now been used to help others. It all started with one hypothesis: others are doing, but does it make sense? Michael .
  • Mar 18 2013: 1) The value of a good coach to guide you 2) The value of being Nice to others - if you want the world to be nice to you 3) If you are to be a good at swimming, you have to get in the pool and swim (regularly and with focus)
  • Mar 18 2013: I learned that if you want something bad enough you will always be able to achieve it. There is no excuse for not having what you want in life and if you don't it's because you never tried hard enough. "Grab life before life grabs you."
  • Mar 18 2013: I have learned that letting go is one of the toughest thing you can ever do because you literally are making yourself vulnerable. It takes a lot of courage, strength and faith to believe in yourself, trusting your judgement.

    I have learned that a healthy state of mind not only affects your physical well being but also your relationship with others.

    I have learned that one needs to cherish and treasure what one has, because sometimes life don't give you a second chance.
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    Mar 18 2013: All possible words have been said and written. It's up to us to find them and make them our own.
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    Mar 17 2013: I learned how to cure my husband of the horrible effects of type 2 diabetes by reading books, watching you tube. After 20 years of suffering with the complications of diabetes, In 2003, on my program he came off of 43 units of insulin a day, eliminated severe, debilitating neuropathy in both his feet that limited his walking to 75 feet, eliminated diuretics, eliminated statin drugs, eliminated Naproxen and Nuerontin for pain and lost 100 pounds - 80 in the first 9 months of the program and 20 more a few years ago. We were at Disney World last May and he walked from 8:30 a.m. until 11:45 p.m. with only a short break in the afternoon which we all needed - best part of that trip was seeing the smile on his face at 11:45 p.m. as he came off the monorail at Disney.

    A Cleveland Clinic doctor who saw us recently looked at my husband and said, "do you know you would be dead by now if it wasn't for Mary's program?" He was so impressed, he made arrangements for us to tell our story to the local NBC channel.

    Dr. Marsh of The Ohio State School of Medicine heard our story and asked us to give the opening remarks to a lecture by Gary Taubes (one of my heroes) author of Good Calories, Bad Calories and Why We Get Fat. Mr. Taubes was at The Ohio State University at the request of Dr. Marsh.

    I have created a Keynote (Apple for Powerpoint) presentation and go everywhere delivering hope and help to other diabetics. They need to know that through the right knowledge, they can become an empowered patient and a proactive partner with their doctor in their own healthcare.
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      Mar 19 2013: Mary, this is an awesome share. Well done..........It goes to show us it's often not WHAT we know, but WHO we know. Your husband is fortunate to know you. :-)
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        Mar 20 2013: Thanks so much, Scott! I appreciate your kind words. I am blessed to have such a wonderful husband for the past 52 years and I look forward to the next 25 or so together.

        The 20 years when my husband was so very ill from diabetes were not so much fun for either of us but he has been back being himself for the past ten years. We're grateful for all we've been given especially in terms of his good health.
        Mary
  • Mar 17 2013: I learned I have always had the answers to every one of my life's greatest questions. I only needed to be still long enough to listen to myself. I shouldn't be afraid to hear my inner voice. Its the idle chatter which fills the void I must muddle through.