Dyed All Hues

Thinker and Experimenter,


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When is modesty a bad quality to use? Does modesty ever stifle anything?

What instances would you recommend modesty not be used or is it ever a bad quality?

Would progress in industries be made if people were always modest?

  • Feb 19 2013: Modesty is a detriment when you need to be your own advocate, such as a job interview, sales discussion, or medical discussion. You are being evaluated on many levels. The simply stated truth should always be the correct balance between over-stating and understating a position.
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    Feb 20 2013: Modesty is not to be used in rap videos :)
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    Feb 20 2013: Robert Galway is right about the negative effect modesty may have when one is being interviewed for a job. After all, getting to know about the interviewee is the point of an interview. In sales discussions, exaggerations could affect one's credibility; and it is unwise to hide vital medical information about yourself from medical personel in the name of modesty.

    But modesty is important as far as dressing is concerned. For example, if a woman takes an attempt to looks sexy too far, she may be percieved as a whore. Now, we can debate about perception for a long time; but not many people will pick out a guy with a obvious tattoo and saggy pants in an interview with hundreds of men in well tailored suit.

    One should also be modest when wealth is newly acquired. If one does not invest and get the roots firmly in the soil of riches, extravagance would send such a fool back to poverty quite soon.
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    Feb 26 2013: Another point I was trying to address was, would a business or field of study flourish if they continually are modest? Does any type of business or field of study flourish from being modest to their competition?
  • Feb 21 2013: I am a big fan of modesty, but I do think modesty can run the risk of going too far and verging on self-deprecation. When I was in graduate school for creative writing, modesty almost became a competitive sport among my cohort with one writer trying to out humble the other. It made me uncomfortable to be around certain friends who were overly modest, because I felt the constant need to reassure them of their talent and general worth.
  • Feb 21 2013: Seriously, a job interview is not the time be modest.
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    Feb 20 2013: OK I have a little different take. I think modesty, in all forms, is a reflection of yourself. So if you are forced to change your level of modesty, say in a job interview, or a dress for a wedding, you are uncomfortable. If you are forced to change your level of modesty for an extended period of time, the uncomfortable sensation of immodesty will decrease. But in my experience there is usually not a huge change in a persons level of modesty, outside of mental illness.

    Modesty is just one piece of your personality. I doubt it has anything to do with industry.
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    Gail .

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    Feb 20 2013: I would not think that modesty would work well in a nudist colony.

    I don't see how modesty relates to industrial progress.

    After reading Robert's comment, I wonder if I understood your question.